Hi everyone!
Our wedding is in 2021 (500 days away). FH and I have been productive from the get-go and have nearly planned the entire wedding. Our family dynamics are very unlike.
Here’s where my worry begins to sink in....
We are often told as I’m sure many other couples are that when you get married, you don’t just marry your prospective spouse but your families as well. FMIL and I share a cordial relationship. His family background is what some may consider unorthodox. My family is certainly more traditional. My primary concern is how the personal decisions him and I make could potentially cause repercussions between his mother and I. The relationship he has shared with his mother over the years could be described as intricate.
We have established that we will not allow our differences to negatively influence our marriage. We have equally decided to withdraw from adverse influences in pursuance of a wholesome marriage. We want to build our own family unit. Him and I would prefer to take a more traditional approach to parenting. We want to build a sound foundation for our future children and provide them with the resources and capacity to be independent thinkers.
These policies and actions we both agree would be beneficial for our marriage.
We fear that family members will feel we are being deliberately insensitive to their feelings or wishes.
I personally worry that his family will resent me due to our decisions. We understand that some will take offense and will find our decisions distasteful. We personally don’t want to drive any wedges between family members.
Please share your thoughts and similar experiences.
Thank you for your support!