Fiancé does not want to dance with his mom for the parent dance

This is their family dynamic and his issue to solve. You are free to dance with your own parents, but if he doesn't want to do a mother-son dance, that's his choice. You should stay out of it and support him no matter what he decides.

It’s not needed. He doesn’t have to if he doesn’t wish to. I didn’t dance with my father and no one noticed or questioned it.

You have to respect his wishes. You can't control what anyone else does or how they react and that'll be on them if they cause a scene. It's his day just as much as yours and he deserves to do what he's comfortable with. You should absolutely do the parent dances you want. No one will notice there wasn't a groom/mother dance.

I’m dancing with my dad and I SUPER don’t want to but don’t want to hurt his feelings so I’m keeping it incredibly short. My fiancé is going to keep his dance with his mom short as well so it feels less awkward for me and less noticeable how little I want to do it

Dance with your father and that’s it. Honestly, I don’t ever recall seeing a mother/son dance but I know it’s a thing… it’s just not a MUST HAVE.

No dances are considered “required”. Feel free to dance with your dad, and if your fiancé does not want to dance with his mom, that’s ok. It’s best to respect his decision. If his mom gets upset, that is up to him to deal with and you should not get in the middle. If she tried to come to you about it, politely assert that it’s beyond your boundary and not your right to get involved.

If he doesn’t want to dance, he’s not required to. He needs to set and maintain boundaries with his mother because this is only the start of what parents will do if you don’t set boundaries. Keep saying no, hang up the phone or walk away. I’ve never seen a mother/son dance as a guest so I wouldn’t notice if it wasn’t done. Plus if they are not close, even more reason to skip it. You secant still dance with your dad.

*You can still dance with dad alone

No one will notice if one of you is doing a parental dance but the other newlywed isn't. Your folks won't care at all, even if you decided to skip the father-daughter and the 1st dance. As long as you provide free food,drinks and dessert at the reception: everything else is optional.

His mom should be grateful for being invited at all, many people cut their mom or dad of their life and wouldn't even be invited to their wedding, when their relationship is as bad as it sounds in your post

"I don't know what to do I" Just let him call this shot! As much as he doesn't get a say on the father-daughter dance. And had they had a great relationship, her wants still don't matter as much as yours your groom's on this and other areas (unless she's offered to express her opinion) ,the only say she gets is the outfit she wants to wear and maybe the folks who will seat at 'her' table at the reception if she makes that request.

If you try to convince or force him to do this dance, you will open a can of worms and his mom will feel entitled to interfere in your marriage everytime they disagree and I'm sure you won't want that.

Why would you want to force/convince him to do this if you know it'll not make him happy? This is not the same as trying to convince him to do a first dance.

Whose feelings are more important to you? Are you marrying this guy or his mom???

Do what dances you want to do with your family independent of what dances your FH does or does not want do.

I would stay by him and support his decision not to dance with his mother. That being said, there may be things you can do to minimize the disparity between your family interactions and his. Would you consider opening up your father daughter dance to all fathers and daughters in attendance? You could also have the DJ play a special song for you to dance with your family members without announcing that you are dancing with your mother,



Also something to consider, perhaps make a game plan so your fiancé has friends or other family members to support him in case his mother ambushes him for a dance at the wedding and you are not together. My husband had a game plan with his BM and our officiant for avoiding the horrible uncle he was convinced to invite but luckily he didn't attend and we didn't need it.

We aren’t doing any dancing with parents … Well my father wasn’t invited to the wedding because we just aren’t close or anything and so we both decided to just skip it completely. My SO didn’t want to do a dance with his mom either and they are VERY close. Just respect his decision.

Literally having this sand issue!!

*literally have the same issue!!

It sure is a slap in the face to his mom. He can't do 2 minutes?