A friend of mine “Dina” has been with her new partner for a few months now. I still haven’t met him (though others in our circle have) but Dina is well aware that I will be inviting her partner to my wedding as her significant other - when I told her this a few weeks ago, she was really appreciative that he was being invited as she didn’t think he would be.
A mutual friend of ours “Sadie” told me that Dina hosted a party at her partner’s place last weekend and everyone else in our group attended. Sadie let it slip thinking that I’d been invited and couldn’t make it.
I was a bit nonplussed by this so I decided to message Dina (we work at different times so messaging each other is most convenient) to ask why I hadn’t been invited. She didn’t give me a straight answer, just saying it was her boyfriend’s party (quite contrary to what I had been told by Sadie) so I tried to brush it off and light heartedly told her “his loss, at least you know I would have come with wine and cake lol”. Dina responded “ok drama queen”.
I feel like Dina’s response tipped me over the edge because rather than own what happened or at least say something reassuring (i.e. “haha definitely won’t happen again, don’t worry) she dismissed my feelings. I don’t think it is worth ending a friendship over but I’m not really sure how to act right now since my view is that Dina doesn’t really value our friendship like I do.
Thoughts??
Edited to add: Some people find it out of line that I spoke to Dina about this. Where I come from, if someone has said or done anything to upset someone, we generally address it with them to resolve it and move past it, and I personally value friendships where we can be open and honest about these things. I appreciate that in other cultures or places, this is not a conventional social norm, however, I am asking here for advice as to how to move on from this or what to do, not whether or not you agree with me speaking to Dina to address my feelings on this matter.