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Feeling sad about wedding pictures and timeline, after the wedding. Its ruining my memories of the day.

Celine, on May 7, 2024 at 7:01 AM Posted in Married Life 0 3

TLDR: I feel maybe i was too caught up trying to get perfect photos of myself and my husband on our wedding day that I didn't get pictures with other guests. Now feel I missed out on parts of the day.
I find myself looking at others weddings online and being envious of their big group pics/guest pics. I wonder if we had done the pictures another day would I have enjoyed the day better.
So, I got married 1 year ago. I have been going between loving my photos and being angry at myself for getting so many staged pictures with my husband and none with guests. I would like some other people's opinions.
The day started well. We have lovely pics of the wedding preparations with parents and bridal party, the church wedding and lovely pictures of us greeting guests after the cermony. After the cermony we went to a local beach for couple pictures as its where we got engaged. The photos are beautiful and the weather was great. We look super happy but I feel slightly posed and unfortunately stayed there longer than anticipated as we were having fun at the time.
When we returned to the venue it started to rain. Most of our family pictures are taken inside or with a grey sky. I feel if we'd skipped the beach then our family pics would have been better and we'd have joined the cocktail reception. Unfortunately between the rain and the pictures we missed our cocktail reception which is something I'm sad about. We then had dinner and speeches which were again beautiful. We went to all our guests tables during dinner to say a second hello. We then slipped out between courses to get some sunset pictures which I requested but I now feel stupid for taking, again very posed.There's some lovely candid pictures of guests during dinner and speeches. After dinner we had our first dance which was beautiful. We've some great pictures of us and all our family and friends. After dinner I had a suprise for my mum. We had her wedding dress made into a second dress for me. We did a few photos with her and my Dad with this which were very special and she shed a few tears. At this time the guests were on the dance floor. To end the night there's some pictures of us on the dance floor and then that's it.
We've a small amount of pictures/videos of us with friends or just guests enjoying themselves without us taken on their own phones but not too many. My MOH said everyone was having too much fun to take pictures and was living in the moment.
My main concerns are I spent too much time away from guests with my husband and didn't get pictures with many of our friends/guests, and now I won't have memories with them.
My hubby says we have pictures with our friends from our bachelor/bachelorette parties and other peoples (friends and family) weddings. But I just can't shake the feeling I spent too much time on us and getting the perfect couples pictures on the day, and not enough with our guests and making memories with them.
Is this stupid?

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Latest activity by Kelsey, on May 10, 2024 at 7:45 AM
  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
    Michelle Online ·
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    Did you have a professional photographer and give them a list of what you wanted? If so, that’s their fault for not honoring your wishes. Professional pictures of guests are a newer thing and haven’t been done for decades. A lot of couples actually welcome the candid photos that guests take, despite the current “unplugged” trend on social media that dissuades having them, because the photographer didn’t traditionally take photos of guests. Group photos in any capacity, including photos with each table, require planning and logistics before the wedding. Some couples ask the second shooter to take pictures of guests and other couples may have a photo booth with guests as a guest book or receiving line at the cocktail hour as an alternative.


    At this point, because the wedding has passed so long ago, treasure the candid photos you have and speak with a therapist about the guilt which is not healthy to hang onto.
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  • Andrea
    Rockstar January 2024
    Andrea ·
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    Even if you feel you should’ve done it differently, there’s absolutely nothing that can be done about it now. No wedding is ever perfect, so forgive yourself and move on. But make this your standard wedding planning advice so you can help future brides!
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  • K
    Just Said Yes May 2025
    Kelsey ·
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    I’m sorry you’ve been thinking about this for some time and it’s been weighing on you. It’s not crazy at all- your regret is really grief/loss- sometimes guilt or regret comes with that.


    It seems like the information you had at the time was that it was a beautiful day and you likely would’ve made other decisions if you knew it would rain and that pictures would be impacted. It also looks like you were able to live in the moment at different points of the day especially with two important people- your spouse and mom!! And although you didn’t get photos to capture the memories, know that you had moments with each table through out the reception. I encourage you to talk to a therapist. This is a normal regret many people have unfortunately.
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