I have been engaged since late 2022 and have been in the wedding planning process for just over a year and a half. My wedding is next month, and we sent up Save the Dates in November followed by invites in late February / March.
We are just now beginning to get last minute declines from close friends and family, and I am feeling a bit of a way about it. I understand that some people will obviously not be able to attend, but I have people who:
1. Haven't responded to the invite or wedding website at all, or reached out to mention the wedding, essentially ignoring the invitation completely
2. Folks that I attended their wedding and gave (very nice) gifts, and also attended other events (baby showers, etc) and also gave really nice gifts, and they couldn't bother to even acknowledge my day (I don't care about the gift at all as I can buy my own stuff but it's really sad they couldn't return the favor of even simply RSVPing)
3. Family members who "can't afford" to attend yet are going on cruises, big vacation, etc. in the months leading to or after my wedding. These folks have known about the date for well over a year.
Am I right in feeling slighted about any of these? It just feels like no one cares about me or our special day, even though some of these folks beggggged to have information about the wedding, and I participated in their celebrations over the years.
Thoughts?