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Feeling Overwhelmed

Ivy ORP, on August 5, 2019 at 3:54 PM Posted in Style and Décor 0 17

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I started reading the forums for ideas, to connect, and share some of our own ideas. But now I am freaking about my centerpieces, not planning to have a welcome sign, and so many things after seeing some of the beautiful pics out there. We want a low key but classy event at our beach house venue. Everything about the day is meant to be a nod to us as a couple and as individuals. While I feel very secure about most of the kitchiness, I am suddenly freaked that our centerpieces won't look good enough and am wondering if we should spend the money on a welcome sign. We originally wanted simple centerpieces, a white lantern from Ikea half filled with blue, half with green led lights, and flanked by wedding themed rubber ducks. Super cute and super us. I went out this weekend and bought simple silver plates to put everything on but I still worry it will look cheap or too childish. I really don't want flowers, but maybe I could get small shells to add to the plates? We originally didn't think about a welcome sign. Our event is in a house, people know what they are coming for. But would it add a bit of elegance? Maybe I'm just overthinking and comparing the simple, sweet ceremony to others, but I still want it to look nice. Has anyone felt this way? Do our ideas sound childish or cute and unique?

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Latest activity by Ali, on August 5, 2019 at 9:39 PM

Champion June 2019
Gen · on August 5, 2019 at 3:59 PM
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Relax. Your ideas sound great. We had basically no centerpieces... nothing other than a table number and a few votive candles. We had a few simple signs but otherwise 0 decor. The only flowers were my and my bridesmaids’ bouquets. We let the beautiful venue speak for itself!

Dont overthink, and don’t compare yourself to everyone in these forums. The forums are a great place to get ideas and bounce ideas off each other and get excited for each other, but ideas are just that....... ideas! Every wedding is different and every wedding is beautiful in its own way. Don’t feel like you change your ideas solely based on the fact that they aren’t as elaborate as other people’s!
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on August 5, 2019 at 4:01 PM
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Here’s some photos of our reception room set up for our wedding. Literally no decorations other than a few candles. Maybe I’m just a minimalistic person lol, but I think it looked simple, elegant, and beautiful! I’m glad we spent the money on food, drinks, and having more friends and family present, rather than on decor 🤷🏻‍♀️
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Ivy ORP · on August 5, 2019 at 4:09 PM
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That is beautiful. Thank you! We want everything to look fun but also not like it came from the dollar store even if it did. We have a beautiful venue that is gorgeously decorated and leads right out onto the beach. I couldn't ask for more but I get so anxious sometimes. I am buying a few signs, one for the memorial table, another to remind people that our ceremony is unplugged. The cutest part of that is we plan to put a sticker on the back of the ceremony sign so when people return from the ceremony it will then say "Mischief Managed". And I think that really says all you need to know about us. LOL
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on August 5, 2019 at 4:18 PM
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That is so great! I considered getting some more dollar store decorations but then I realized ultimately I'd rather just have a very minimalistic un-decorated look, rather than risk having cheap-looking decorations. Not to sway you out of using dollar store decorations or anything because I've seen people make them look SUPER nice, but personally I didn't trust my DIY skills to make them not look tacky hahaha, so I just decided to basically abstain from decor I haven't had a single regret about it and honestly can't imagine I ever will..... like can you really imagine yourself looking back on your wedding day and saying "damn I wish we had better centerpieces"? I mean, maybe some people would, idk haha. But for me at least I knew I would never feel like that.
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VIP October 2019
Ivy ORP · on August 5, 2019 at 4:22 PM
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She is more like you while I stress every detail. I didn't choose a single thing for my first wedding outside of my nails so she really wants me to have what I want. At first it felt great to plan an discuss with her to see if she likes it too, but now I am just worried people will think it all looks tacky. I might still get a welcome sign to surprise her but I'm going to think about it first.
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on August 5, 2019 at 4:23 PM
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Your ideas sound good. I think we often times think that more is better but honestly sometimes it isn't. I learned at the tail end of my planning that going simple was better. Less is more sometimes
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Kelly · on August 5, 2019 at 4:30 PM
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Take a deep breath. I don’t remember what the centerpieces look like at a single wedding I’ve been to. I wouldn’t remember my own if I didn’t have pictures haha. I’m sure whatever you have planned is lovely. Also we didn’t have a welcome sign, we actually had zero signs at our wedding!
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Btbride · on August 5, 2019 at 4:33 PM
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My centerpieces were just candles and rose petals/eucalyptus leaves, plus a wood block table number. It looked amazing and was so simple. Don't overthink it! Yours sound so unique and lovely.
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on August 5, 2019 at 4:37 PM
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I laughed when I read this because literally same, our venue was responsible for doing our “centerpieces” and I woke up the morning after our wedding realizing I literally had no idea what they had even looked like. I actually had to go look at a photo so I could see 😂 turned out they did a pretty crappy job, but clearly it didn’t even matter at all hahaha
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Kelly · on August 5, 2019 at 4:37 PM
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I like your ideas. I'm honestly recycling mason jars and filling them with leftovers from my arch. So I often worry if it'll be enough
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on August 5, 2019 at 4:38 PM
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1. People barely noticed our centerpieces and flowers. We spent too much on flowers, I didn't even notice them the day of. I notice centerpieces at weddings, but I'm basically happy if they are flowers or just something and that's it!
2. Welcome sign is 100% not needed!
3. Can you do an example and do one with shells and one without at home and see what you like more? I think the shells sound cute but not required.
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on August 5, 2019 at 5:52 PM
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The guests won't be obsessing over every detail. They'll be there to see you and FH join your lives together!
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Master July 2019
Hannah · on August 5, 2019 at 6:01 PM
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Your ideas sound lovely. I literally had 0 signage. People all transitioned to where they needed to be between ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception. The venue provided a simple printed sign at the bars for "his and her" drinks. They were just black ink on white paper, and they looked fine. People cared more about the drinks that were on them lol. Don't worry about what others are doing. If you think and your FS thing something looks great, then it looks great.
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Devoted July 2020
Candice · on August 5, 2019 at 7:36 PM
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It sounds cute. Your fine. I'm having paper bag lanterns as centerpieces, think elementary art project, but I love them.
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Master June 2020
Anna · on August 5, 2019 at 7:41 PM
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I think it sounds great! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I love things outside of the box! Heck sprinkle a little beach sand out with the shells and some dried beachy grass to tie it all together. The best part is it is uniquely the two of you! Those that know you best, will smile and say...its so them❤ 🌴
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Expert October 2019
Sara · on August 5, 2019 at 7:54 PM
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Don’t overthink it or stress to much! Do things that represent both of you guys. What you are doing sounds really pretty. I wouldn’t put too much pressure on thinking it needs to be like everyone else’s. If you want to do a sign, you can always diy it! Just get some wood and put them together and paint and stain it. I did mine in a class because I’m not good at diy on my own. Also I did mine because I am having my wedding out of town.
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Expert March 2021
Ali · on August 5, 2019 at 9:39 PM
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Your ideas sound like they fit you guys as a couple and your wedding perfectly. There's no reason to compare to others. If it fits you and you're happy go for it
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