Family Members trying 2 take over

Sorry that you're having to deal with this Monique!

First up, I would stop talking in detail about your plans with friends and family. By doing so you are just opening yourself up to other people's opinions. Keep them in the dark and let them be pleasantly surprised by your vision on the day.

However, as people are already commenting on things I would just thank them for their input but politely let them know that you are not looking to change the decisions you and your FH made. If necessary you can always tell them that changes are not possible at this short notice anyway!

View Quoted Comment Hi Bridget I hope that your planning is going well for you both. And yes I stop telling friends a while back but this is my daughter who is up and coming event planner. But I do have another person who will be there she is a event planner my daughter is supposed to be shadowing and helping THE DAY OF COORDINATOR will be there. But now that I am talking about it I am going calm down and have my daughter step away and just have her do her original assignment which my second MOH. Thank you Bridget for that clarity because now that it's very close I have them very emotional

Plus guys mom will not be at my wedding that's the most heart breaking 💔💔😢😢part of it all

Sorry about his mom not making it. And I had hoped you were going to avoid the irritations. It seems they are pushing enough different ideas to bother you -- and that from family too. Maybe the day of coordinator can keep the plans according to your wishes. Whatever happens, the big thing is that you still stay encouraged and keep doing what you can. The day of your wedding will be grand in the end.

View Quoted Comment Hi Michael it's my mother that isnt coming and since I found about it seems that everything has started. Having some issues in certain areas and I am feeling very emotional about it. I won't have her there to see me or help me with my wedding dress. Its that is a special moment between a mother and daughter. No special advice nor to see her face get that hugs and at the ceremony seeing her looking at me with a teary eye and the reception for that dance with her. So I'm trying remain calm and yes its the family trying to change my idea. So I did speak to my coordinator and gave some Instructions that yes my daughter can help but she the coordinator is in charge. Plus for a bride we all have that adrenaline and worry that something may not be right. So I will not what going at venue until I get there. I Pray that thing will be ok.

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Yes, definitely a moment to share. I hope those that are with you can comfort you and give back some of that preciousness to your preparations and events that day.

View Quoted Comment Yes I will do my best and hope that the idea we have that I for got to mention. We are trying set ups Zoom or different type of way on the computer for her to see. Me a and her grandchildren as well and for the ceremony. I hope that it works and I will do my best to just focus on my big day that is coming. Thank you

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Good that you can share the ceremony with her over zoom. It may require a little preparation to be ready to get it done well. Is that with a company that does live videos?

View Quoted Comment No my it's a company my granddaughter is going to use her computer lab top. I hope that it works lol lol please I'm praying 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

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Praying with you.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much as many prayers are excepted greeting

Youre never wrong to feel a certain way. How we act on our feelings is where the wrong can come in. It's your wedding. You have the final say, wedding planned or not. Try to express your wishes as diplomatically as possible. If necessary, ask your fiance to help you to convey the message. I hope it all works out.

View Quoted Comment Thank you I did tell him but by it begining our daughter he doesn't want to hurt her feelings. But I told him that she has to be told to step back helping and trying to take over. Is one thing to be helping out but put keep trying to project your way and not helping to bring forth her parents vision is another. I just told her to keep the duties that I gave her. So now just keep my fingers crossed at all will go just fine. Thank you for your advice in such a articulate manner