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Courtney
Beginner January 2020

Family Frustration

Courtney, on March 19, 2019 at 12:38 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 11

So my FH and I got engaged a little over a month ago. Our families are both really excited but the one thing they constantly bring up is that our wedding day will be on a Thursday. For us its practical to get married in the off season and on a week day to save money and also we really like the date... 02/20/2020. The comment I get most is "Don't you want more people to be able to come?" or "Its better to have a weekend wedding so more of your family or friends can make it". Im really starting to get upset at the fact that its brought up every time we see family. It makes me not want to plan a wedding and elope. Does anyone else have any stories similar so I don't feel so alone?

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Latest activity by Kelly, on August 10, 2019 at 10:29 AM
  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    If they aren't contributing, then I just would ignore it. I was in a Thursday wedding and 75 out of 100 people attended.

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  • Jessica
    Super May 2019
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    I get opinions about my Friday wedding all the time too. "Do you know that's a Friday?" Umm...yup. "Did you purposely choose a Friday?" Umm....yup. "Don't you know people have to work?" Lots of people work Saturdays and Sundays also. In fact tons of my family works weekends. Taking a day off is the same no matter what and if it's too inconvenient, they don't have to come. This date is special to us and we're comfortable if it's just the two of us (obviously it won't be). If you are too, then stick your ground and let it roll off your shoulders.

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  • Mrs. S
    Master November 2019
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    I get a lot of oh...that’s a Sunday...
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  • Sophie
    Super December 2020
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    Girl your wedding is far enough away for them to take the day before and after off. Who doesn’t love a long weekend? Most kids are off for February vacation anyway so it would work out nicely. It’s less expensive. If they don’t want to Itake the time off, that’s on them.
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  • Future Mrs. K
    VIP June 2019
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    Yes hahaha same!!

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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
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    They do bring up a real concern. By having a weekday wedding, you run the risk of more people not being able to attend. That doesn't mean you shouldn't do it though. You should plan the wedding you want and the wedding you can afford.

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  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    It's YOUR wedding, not theirs. Your guests have plenty of time to make arrangements if needed. If they can't make it, or don't even want to come, then that just means more wine for you haha.

    I was in a friend's wedding that was on Friday night and it was a blast! We had all day get ready and had an extra day to recover and hang out with people from out of town.

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  • Tara
    Master May 2020
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    They can always not show up if it’s inconvenient for them lol. 😐 People kill me with their silly questions!
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  • Bre
    Dedicated September 2019
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    I'm getting married on a Thursday thought that would keep the number low, no such luck lol keep asking if they can come..lol. So if they really want to be there they will.
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  • Alejandra
    Super March 2019
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    I am marrying this Sunday, woot woot and out of my 105 invites sent out 103 rsvp'd. I let them know the date over a year out because it's an adult only wedding and because it is on a Sunday. I've been getting texts all week long telling me how excited every one is. We chose the date and since then we just never thought about it again, you've chosen your date and thats it, those who really matter will do whatever it takes to be there.

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  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
    Kelly ·
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    My cousin is getting married the Sunday before we are getting married & it’s in the evening. At first I was going to take off from work Wed - the following Tuesday for our wedding. After I realize that I was going to be getting home late Sunday, I decided to take off the full week before our wedding. People who want to be there will make it work if they can.
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