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Arielle
Expert August 2020

Engagement party Thank You cards mailed with Save the Dates

Arielle, on June 25, 2019 at 8:10 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 14

So my fiance and I had our engagement party this past Saturday. It was our families and our now bridal party. It was amazing and we got a lot of nice gifts from mainly family. We are sending our save the dates out in August, I know we have to get thank you cards for the gifts. Is it tacky to put thank you cards with the save the dates? It's going to get pricey to send STDs, thank yous (engagement party), invitations, and then more thank you cards after the wedding.

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Latest activity by Arielle, on June 25, 2019 at 4:21 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Sending them together wouldn't be a problem if you were sending save the dates sooner. Waiting an entire month to send thank you notes would be rude.

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  • Arielle
    Expert August 2020
    Arielle ·
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    Hm I didn't consider this. Do you think sending the save the dates in July for a May 2020 wedding is too soon?

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    Yes, save the dates should go out 6-8 months before the wedding. Maybe a month or two earlier if you're having a destination wedding or lots of out of town guests.

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  • Arielle
    Expert August 2020
    Arielle ·
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    I wish stamps weren't so expensive haha. We have some guests coming up from FL and a few from OH and NY. (I'm in NJ). They know the date already too so I guess I'm going to the post office today!

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  • Mrs. H
    Master September 2019
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    I agree w/Caytlyn. I think you need to get your "Thank You's" out sooner than August for a party that took place in June.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    I agree, but keep in mind that your friends and family probably spent much more than 55 cents on your gifts.

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  • Arielle
    Expert August 2020
    Arielle ·
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    Yea, I definitely agree. I know what I'm doing next weekend.

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  • Arielle
    Expert August 2020
    Arielle ·
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    Great way to think about it Smiley smile

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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    I think it's better to send thank you cards sooner. Yea all the stamps are pricey, but you can always try thank you post cards to avoid envelopes.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I think sending them together is fine. We sent rehearsal dinner invites with our wedding invites.

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  • Arielle
    Expert August 2020
    Arielle ·
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    Yeah I thought about it some more and I can send the save the dates earlier too. If I send them mid july with the thank you cards its a happy medium. I know they spent more than 55 cents for the gifts but we're inviting almost 200 people... it adds up.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    Oh I understand! We sent 100 save the dates, 110 invites all with RSVP stamped envelopes, I just sent 35 thank you cards for early wedding presents & bridal shower gifts! Our wedding isn't even here yet haha!

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  • Jenna
    Super October 2019
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    I personally don't think sending save the dates in July is a problem so I would just send them together if you can have everything prepared in the next couple of weeks. If some of your guests from the engagement party also know other guests invited to the wedding who were not at the engagement party, I would suggest sending all save the dates at the same time. You wouldn't want word to get around that you sent some and some others feel like an after-thought because they receive them later. We had someone awkwardly contact FH because her friend received a save the date and she wanted to know why she wasn't invited.

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  • Arielle
    Expert August 2020
    Arielle ·
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    I think I can get away with sending them because the engagement party was basically only family and we posted pictures on social media anyway. I think I am just going to send them out together in July.

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