There are many cogs spinning in this mess, but to keep it short, my fiancé's mother is an awful human. That's something he's said and after meeting her, I wholly agree. His father is ok, but also, I feel like he let's his wife run wild. His mom has been abusive towards my fiancé his entire life and according to him, she's never liked any of his girlfriends... therefore, I'm automatically not good enough. She's been awful to me, racist, manipulative, etc., and I've only been in her presence 3-4x.
My future husband keeps her at a distance because of how awful she is, but with our upcoming wedding her behavior and contact has escalated. They often get into fights and she'll show up at our house unannounced just to berate my fiancé and attempt to force him to speak to her. She calls him all hours of the night, leaves messages, calls again the next day... he ignores as much as he can, but then his dad calls him asking him to speak to his mother (likely because she's driving her husband crazy).
The other day, my fiancé finally said enough and his words "disowned" her. I support him 100%. But... we're getting married 100 days... how do I handle this?
She was invited... and she may still show up. Should we kick her out? What if she decides to behave and stay quiet? Should we let her stay? I say this because she tends to keep her abuse quiet from others so she looks like a good mom to others, but when few people are around, she's awful.
His dad was invited... should we still insist that he go? Or just count them both out?
This may affect other family members on his side... do we just accept that some people who do support his mother may not go now? I'm sure she's telling everyone how horrible we both are.
Do we need security? Should we warn some others that there may be wedding drama?
We cannot change venues now... we were lucky to get the beautiful place we got and at the cost we got it at. They aren't contributing to the wedding in any way (my fiancé and I are paying for everything). So... like what should I possibly prepare for when it comes to family drama?
