I keep going back and forth here and am looking for options. I'm a BM for a wedding coming up in a few weeks. I am almost certain I remember the bride saying she was going to cover our hair/makeup as a gift. Another BM recalls the same. Here we are a few weeks out and I received a text from the bride informing me I need to send her 200, not including tip, fit hair/makeup. She's already signed the contract and said there were enough people that the MUA wasn't charging for travel. I have less than a week to send the money. I was not consulted. I was just informed today as was the other BM. I haven't responded because, to be totally honest, I'm annoyed. I'm annoyed I wasn't asked if this was what I wanted prior to having someone else commit for me. I was not asked about my budget prior to this decision being made.
The thing is, I have the funds. But I'm just annoyed with how it went down. One of the other BMs already said something, so I'd be, at minimum, the 2nd person to tell her something. The other BM just said she would send her the money but couldn't afford any other expenses. I was gonna say something similar but also want to mention that this was very inconsiderate. There's more to this than I'm mentioning here that make me want to say something. My husband says let it go, send her the money but distance myself if I want, after the wedding. My mom agrees that there's nothing to gain if I say something. But I'm irritated and want to tell her that this is not ok in any way.
At this point, I don't even know if I'm picking the hairstyle or if she's picking for me so there's that too. What would you do? How would you approach it? This is family so I need to be a little mindful of what I say.
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