Different bouquet than bridesmaids?

I've been in a number of weddings where the bride's bouquet slightly differed.

My bouquet had different flowers in it than my bridesmaids. Slightly similar color palettes with the same greenery but different flowers.

My florist is doing this. My bouquet will have one common element with the BMs, but the bouquets will have mostly different flowers.

The logic was this: your dress is white, so you want contrasting colors. Their dresses are most likely not white so the white flowers work for them.

I didn't know they were supposed to be the same. Never seen that! But that may just be my redneck town... I'd say go ahead and be different! No one would harp on you for getting different flowers.

It would only look weird if you were wearing an orange gown while carrying a pink peony bouquet and they were wearing white gowns while carrying white tulip bouquets (the first is hard on the eye, and the second is an exercise in invisibility).

Seriously, this is hardly unusual. In fact, we've never had a bride who wants her bouquet to match the bouquets carried by her attendants (coordinate? Yes. Match? No.). Every bridal bouquet we make is the stand-out piece, and we NEVER forget that. It's always bigger and contains more expensive and varied stems while the BMs bouquets, as pretty as they are, are often smaller, far less expensive and elaborate bouquets that seamlessly coordinate with the bridal bouquet (but could never steal its glory). Many brides want their MOHs to have a slightly more significant bouquet than their BMs, and we always accommodate that request. Long story short -- your bouquet will be photographed over and over again -- and a good florist will make sure it's camera ready, and that it's the one to beat.

Honestly, I love your idea -- a pink peony bouquet in the hands of a mid-spring bride, a vision in white flanked by her honored attendants carrying white tulips (I love tulips and wish we had more brides willing to incorporate them), sounds beautiful. Your idea is perfect -- after all, whatever color your ladies are wearing, white will coordinate beautifully.

ETA: Consider asking your florist how much extra it would be to incorporate a few pink accents stems into the white tulip bouquets -- a little goes a long way (something like a few stems of pink spray roses, pink carnations, or pink Veronica -- which is a gorgeous, textural accent stem -- and it comes in tones of pink from light to the deepest tones of fuchsia).