Did you include fh family in wedding party?

We didn’t include each other’s siblings. My brother and my sister in law were in the wedding walking in the processional but they weren’t groomsman and bridesmaid. I don’t feel like it’s an obligation to make them a party of the party just because they’re siblings. Have the people you are close to be a part of your wedding parties

We are not including my FSIL in the wedding party. Her 2 daughters are flower girls. But his sister and I are not close at all. Not for the lack of trying on my part but she just doesn't seem to want to get to know me. So I just don't include her in stuff. I tried but it didn't work.

Only ask those closest to you to stand by you. Remember, you are not obligated to ask someone just because you're marrying their family member. Ask the people who you couldn't imagine standing up there without!

If you've already asked your bridesmaids, you should probably stick with the people that you have, so anyone who gets asked at this point doesn't feel like they've been "tagged on." If you've just started asking people to be a part of the bridal party, then you could totally have them (2 added, right?) and have them walk down the aisle together at the end. The two parties don't always have to be balanced. If your FH doesn't want to include your siblings, though, that's his call, so it would be uneven.

My FH thought about asking my brother to be a groomsman, but they aren't very close, and I told him that I wouldn't feel insulted if he didn't. We both have really small groups (3) like you, and we're really intimately close with the people we chose, so it felt weird to add my brother just out of blood obligation.

I included only my sister on my side and FH chose to have his sister stand on his side. Pick only who you want to be there and don't feel obligated to choose them only because they are future family!

First off, you don't need even sides. To me, that's pretty dated and I almost never see it anymore. I don't think it's too late to ask if you ask now. We included all our siblings in our wedding party (my husband's 4 sisters and my 1 brother) but we are all very close.

I have one sister, who is a bridesmaid, and FH has one sister, who is not in the wedding party. His sister and I get along great, but when I was thinking about who I wanted to be my bridesmaids I immediately came up with 4 girls, and his sister was not one of them. I talked it over with FH, since he is very close with his sister and he told me if I don't want to ask her, don't. He wanted me to make sure I asked the girls I'm the most close with, and if I didn't end up asking his sister that was fine. My own sister even told me that if I wanted to kick her out to make room for my friends that I could, as long as I was happy with who I chose. So I guess that's my advice to you. Don't ask someone just because you feel like you should. Choose people who you genuinely want standing next to you and who you can't imagine not being a part of your wedding.

You're not obligated to have anyone in your wedding party, and you definitely shouldn't ask (or not ask) people to make the sides even. Ask the people that you're closest to and have your fiancé do the same.

I am including FH's sister, but that was a personal choice because we have become very close and I basically see her as my little sister. FH isn't even including one of his brothers who is fairly distant from the family, so we chose our BP based on personal relationships and not family obligation. I agree with PPs that you should choose whoever YOU want up there with you, and don't need to worry too much about even sides. I don't think it's too late to ask for an August wedding, but you'll probably want to start picking out dresses pretty soon.

We are getting married in August too! My fiancé has 6 brothers and only one will be in our wedding. Our wedding party consists of people we are close with. None of my bridesmaids are blood family just all very good friends who are like family.

We included FH’s sister and her husband. Their kids are our flower girls and ring bearers. He is very close with them, and since the beginning of our relationship I have been close with them as well.

My siblings, on the other hand, are not in the wedding party. Previously my sister was married and had a nasty divorce and now has a grim view on relationships and marriage, and my engagement/wedding/impending marriage has caused a large rift between us. I had always imagined her as my maid of honor when I got married as I was hers, but she doesn’t support my marriage so she isn’t included in the wedding party. And my brother lives hundreds of miles away, never visits our family and has never met my FH (we are not close).

Have the people that you’re closest too! I have 3 friends and 3 family (2 sister in laws and my cousin) I’m close to them and consider them my sisters. My hubby has his brothers and my brother. We’re just naturally close to each other siblings. So it’s really nice. But that’s not always the case

My FH has 3 sisters and I’m an only child. He is very close with one sister but the other two not so much, so what he did was he asked his sister to be his best woman and the others are just guests at our wedding. You shouldn’t include anyone just to include them because it’s your day and who you want to be included, so if you want one over the other or only want to include one, that’s what you should do. My FH’s family was understanding when it came to this and they didn’t mind. If you think it’ll cause issues not to include them all, then I’d say probably include none before you include people you don’t necessarily want being part of your bridal party.

My husband has a large family (10 siblings, all older). We settled it by me choosing the girls and he chose the guys. He chose 2 brothers he was close to and the rest were his friends. I had 1 cousin and the rest were all my friends.

Hubby & I both agreed we would each choose who was going to stand by our sides respectively. My sister and cousin are the only family I have standing on my side and a number of my friends. Didn’t ask his sister or sister in law because we are not close, just civil at family functions and holidays. He chose his brother, brother in law, and my brother among other friends on his side. He and my brother actually get along, joke with each other constantly and have bonded so it made sense. Do not feel obligated to ask family if you are not close. So glad I kept mine the way I did.

I picked my bridesmaids and my maid of honor (who is my sil, but my brothers wife NOT my fiancé’s sister). I am not close with his sister, she’s actually been pretty crappy to both of us but his mom would not stop saying that his sister Stacey needed something to do in the wedding, like literally every tine we spoke. I refused to just add a random reading because it’s what they asked for (we are paying for 100% of this wedding too)
About a month ago my fiancé expressed it was important to him that Stacey and my brother are in the wedding (my brother is walking me down the aisle, he was already in the wedding) but his family couldn’t expect that Stacey wasn’t. So 8 months+ after i asked my bridesmaids, I asked Stacey to be one as well 🙄🙄🙄
It’s worth it to me to keep the peace with his mom and honestly she’s less annoying to me as a bridesmaid than if she woulda had a big speaking role. Hope she knows her place day of! Long story short, you don’t have to do anything. There is something to be said about keeping the peace and trying to form relationships with new family members, but at the end of the day, it is your and your fiancés day. If it was only my fiancé’s family that cared she was in the wedding and not him, I woulda stood my ground. You don’t have to include anyone you don’t want to but weigh the pros and cons. Good luck!

I chose my maid of honor , bridesmaids, flower girls and ring boy and the readers of the scripture lessons in the ceremony
He chose his best man and grooms men
We didn’t cross lines Lolol That worked best for us

Find other things for them to do: greeters, candle lighters, readers, etc. Have them be part of your day and ceremony that way.

I probably could have invited his sister, but I had only met her once when we got engaged and didn't feel comfortable with that ask. I don't think it bothered her in the slightest though. She's pretty laid back and is happy to be joining us to party. I don't think his SIL would be even remotely interested in being part of the wedding party.

FH didn't have to worry about this question since my only brother passed away several years before we even met.

H added his brother as a groomsman basically to get his mother to shut the##%% up. She was still on him up to the day before the ceremony about having his best friend as his best man instead of the brother he barely talks to. She just couldn’t fathom him not choosing his brother as best man.
Fortunately my brother never had any intention of coming so we didn’t have to worry about him.