Hello everyone!
I'm needing some advice on how to handle one of my bridesmaid's behavior.
I've known her for almost 3 years now, and haven't had any problems with her until I got engaged and added her to my wedding party. It all started with wedding dress shopping when I asked if her and my MOH would go with me. My MOH is a nurse, so trying to find a day that she could go was difficult due to her scheduling, which I understood and had no problem with, but my BM1 automatically began speaking about her negatively (saying MOH is rude and thinks the world revolves around her).
Fast forward a few months and it started up again when my bridal party began planning my surprise bachelorette. My BM1 was constantly complaining to me about the MOH and how she wasn't respecting everyone's budgets or ideas. I reached out to BM2 and she said she didn't see any of those issues in their group message, and wasn't sure why BM1 was complaining to me, and that they had even picked the Airbnb that BM1 suggested. Basically the entire planning process was miserable, and consisted of me trying to calm BM1 down and gently remind her that the MOH isn't the bad person she thinks she is, and that we'd have a great trip.
Oh the actual trip, BM1 was fine the first day. The second day she kept picking on me saying how I was going to get too drunk to go out, then ended up getting day drunk herself and told everyone she didn't want to go out with us. We get ready, and even told her we would wait on her, skip going out and stay with her for a movie night, and that she also could sleep in one of the beds instead of the pull out couch since she felt bad. She refused. As we're leaving, she made a comment about how if we would've just waited 2 hours, she would've felt fine enough to go. We again offered to wait, she refused again, so we went out. When we came back, she was sleeping on the pull out. The next day my MOH planned a brunch and for us to explore the city and shop. The entire time BM1 was complaining, not speaking to anyone, and if we tried to engage with her, she would react negatively. Honestly, the only time she was happy the entire trip was when we were drinking.
During the trip we were all nice to her, not cliquey, and included her in everything. I even told her when we got home how everyone enjoyed the trip and we were thinking of taking another girls trip together. To which she responded: "Of course you thought it went well, it was a trip catered to you with your besties...".
Idk. I guess I'm just hurt that she's taking whatever anger she has out on me. I've asked her how her time with the MOH on the trip was, and she said they got along great and she had a great time, but she continues to make snide comments to and about me. I'm not wanting to remove her from the bridal party because she's still my friend and I care about her, I just don't know how to react to her anymore because she's been so rude to me lately. I know she'll never be bffs with my MOH, and that's fine, but I also feel and know that my MOH has done nothing to BM1 to receive the hate that BM1 has for her.
Just kind of at a loss. Sorry for the long post! I'm just tired of venting to my FH about it!