Crazy guest requests

That is completely outlandish. I wonder if these people are of sane mind

This behavior is NOT surprising: your guy literally enabled it by giving a STD after the friend asked. When you give your little finger to people like them, they take the whole hand. Hopefully, this story will teach you and your fiance a solid lesson for the future (non-wedding related stuff): to not be people pleasers at all costs, your wants come first.

Some of my dad's siblings had the nerves to request a alcohol-free wedding, which was met with a solid,firm "my fiancé and I don't drink either... but we are offering alcohol for those who do, WE ARE NOT CHANGING this: we are not sure why one couldn't drink because of YOUR LIFESTYLE. If you can't stand watching people drinking, be free to rsvp no...."

That is awful! We were talking to my now husband's grandmother about our wedding location and she started listing all her friends who would not travel that far. We hadn't even finalized our guest list but, I can tell you that he wanted none of them there. It was awkward that is for sure. We also had an ex-friend of my husband who used to mock our relationship message him the day we got engaged asking where his wedding invite was. People who are entitled are just a bunch of eyerolls. I would tell them "you don't have to come if it conflicts." They might find it rude of you but, it would be no ruder than what they are proposing.

I could never imagine reaching out to someone to ask if I was invited to their wedding. Like even if it was someone I felt I was close with I would never dare. That's just so rude.

Oof people are something else.

I think the craziest stories I've had (at least so far lol) stem from letting FMIL plan the rehearsal dinner. She was telling FH that she was going to send save-the-dates for it, and she was also pestering people about whether they'd be bringing a date so she could give the place a final headcount (this was like 10 months out).