Control Freak

*your Maid of honor
Can't resist fixing a spelling mistake lol

I don't understand the maid of honor/bridesmaids helping plan things? what would they possible help with besides maybe stuffing envelops and helping create favors?

My only bridesmaid is out of state, I really don't need her help with anything except asking her the occasional opinion. I'm doing everything myself and I don't see a problem with it, if you need help def ask for it though - if not, its fine to do things on your own.

My understanding is that bridesmaids plan the shower and bachelorette party - shouldn't plan those yourself, but nothing for the wedding itself.

It’s actually not usual for your bridal party to help with actual wedding planning so unless you specifically ask for their help or opinions or shouldn’t be an issue.

The bridesmaids don’t plan any of the wedding. Your fiancé is supposed to help you or there won’t be be a wedding because you aren’t marrying yourself.

Bridesmaids traditionally plan the shower and bachelorette party but those are both optional.

My bridesmaids haven't done anything to help unless I ask them for tips/suggestions/help. For example, two of them are very crafty, so I asked them to do some decor for me, but I am paying them for the materials used. My MOH is designing my invitations as well because she's a graphic designer. But that's as far as it goes! They don't need to help at all. They're mostly there as a support and to show love.

I don’t mean to sound negative but from personal experience: Depending on what is happening in their own life (school, baby, work, moving/housing), I would not plan/expect them to do anything other than buy dress/rehearsal dinner/wedding day.
Bachelorette party and bridal shower are planned by those who offer. This is not something delegated.
Fiancé helps plan yours and his wedding. I personally think the grooms get off the hook way too easily and a lot of the bridal frustration should be directed at the lack of communication/ help from the fiancé. Check with him/her first before asking for help from someone else. The best advice ever to be received in this board is that no one will ever be as excited for your wedding as you!

View Quoted Comment And so it seems by and large I have misunderstood the roles of others during wedding planning. And I couldn't be more happy or thankful that it is so. Thank you for your advice everyone.

Honestly mine didn't help but they definitely offered to. i didn't have them help because i didn't really need any

My people basically have just been a listening ear through my excitement and ideas. If there's things to do day of they will probably help if needed but that's what I have a coordinator for.

My bridal party just asks about what plans I have mae, and offers feedback/excitement, but they don't help with anything (except a few did offer to help DIY centerpieces if I wanted to go that route)

Your wedding party can be there for you as kind of a soundboard sometimes, but it's not a requirement for them. What I mean by that is when you get together and if wedding talk comes up you go 'oh I'm thinking of doing XYZ' sometimes that conversation evolves into trading ideas about what you could do. However it's not really helping plan things.

Touring the venues, picking food/cake, timelines and decor is all up to you and your SO.

Just make sure to talk to your friends/wedding party about regular life stuff too, don't let it all devolve into wedding planning.