Contemplating moving on or should i wait ?

It sounds like you’ve made your decision. If you don’t see a future with him and he’s making a major move without you, then I’d just make a clean break of it so you can move on.

End the relationship. It’s obvious from your comments you have already checked out and don’t see a future with him.

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But what does his reply imply ?

View Quoted Comment I don’t think it matters at all. You obviously are not committed to this relationship, so his reply/intentions are completely inconsequential.

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But what about him making a major move , he's moving to England and he still hasn't talked about how the long distance thing will work or not , all he talks about is going

View Quoted Comment Girl. I don’t know how much clearer your situation could be. It doesn’t matter if he wants to move alone, move with you, marry you, or leave you. You want to leave him. You have made it very clear that you do not want to be in this relationship and you want to “disappear from his life”. Who cares what his intentions are? Your intentions are clearly not to be in this relationship, so that’s all that should matter.

I actually read your original remarks as you're waiting for him to choose you by June, and you keep leaving the power on his side "to let [you] go". Your response to Cece just reinforces that you're still wondering what he's thinking which is natural in a break-up. The answer is what he's showing you. Men tell you how they feel. It's up to the receiver to take the words at face value. He never asked you to come with him. He doesn't intend a future with you. Lonely evenings are temporary. Go with your instincts, trust yourself, and move on.

If he wanted to further the commitment, he would, with or without the ultimatum. You want to disappear from his life, so listen to your gut feeling and do it.

His reply doesn't "imply" anything, it's outright saying that he doesn't want to have this discussion right now, and more likely, ever. I would have recommended telling him that considering the imminent move this answer is not acceptable and that you need to know where the relationship stands now, not in June. Then if he were continue to put you off, as he's doing now, I'd tell him that you will have no choice but to consider no answer to be your answer.

Your relationship has been a self-described roller coaster from the beginning which is already a huge red flag. Healthy relationships are rarely filled with this kind of drama. On top of this, if you want to disappear from his life, then you already have your answer. Break up now.

Sounds like you've already decided that you don't want to be with him. If that's the case, then the next steps would be to break up with him and then stop all communication with him. Don't meet up with him, don't go on dates with him, don't call or text him. You mentioned that you've told him multiple times to let you go: if you don't want to be with him anymore, you don't need to wait for his permission to leave.

Thank you for the replies , I now know truly what to do !

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Yes clearly because he doesn't want to be with me