Conflicted on who to pick for bridesmaids

Just because you were in M'S bridal party, does NOT mean you're obligated to make them part of yours. Same goes the other way. Just because you weren't in P's party, doesn't mean you can't have her in yours!

Take a look at both friendships and how you feel about them. Do you feel equally close to both ladies, or do you feel more close to one than the other? Those in your bridal party need to be who you feel the closest connection to! These are people that you see a lifelong friendship with through thick and thin, hence why I only have 4 ladies in mine.

If it helps, I was in a bridal party 3 years ago, and didn't ask her to be a bridesmaid for my wedding. I have no regrets now, and I'm sure I won't have any during the wedding and after it's over. We aren't close, so I didn't see a reason to have her in mine.

I can't answer about whether or not you will regret asking someone, of course, but I can say that who asked you to be in their wedding or not shouldn't be part of your decision making on this. There are so many reasons behind who everyone asks that it shouldn't be a reciprocal thing. So, setting that aside, I would choose who you feel closest to currently instead of basing it on past relationship status (because relationships change).

Also there are practical (and financial!) reasons to have a smaller party, so don't add people unless you REALLY want them there.

Do you think if you were a bm for P that you wouldn't have any hesitations now?? I feel like that's the reason behind your hesitancy, but I also don't know if anything weird has happened between you two that would cause a rift or any issues!

I gotcha! Yeah I could see why you would feel a little hurt by that, but the good thing is that you're both still close today! It sounds like you value her friendship way more than M and that you're both close, which is a great person to have in your bridal party!