Compromising on a Honeymoon

I wanted to go to Europe and he wanted to go to Boston. So we're going on cruise out of San Juan for 7 days 🤷🏻‍♀️. Just keep looking for things that have the element of both. For FH he only wanted to spend X dollars and I wanted to do something new. Find something that meets his needs and yours.

We wanted to do south africa, the azores, or the galapagos. but the weather during late september / early october wasn’t in our favor for our ideal time away.

that seems like quite a compromise. but perhaps see what your budget and expectations are before actual destinations.
depending on your budget and time of year there are endless options.

we we ended up going to tenerife and barcelona to get both a relaxed poolside vacation as well as a wandering eat-your-face-off and play tourist vacation.

We talked about the things we wanted to do. He wanted to adventure and hike, but I still wanted a beach to relax on some days. We started thinking tropical parts of Asia would be a good combination. So we priced out a few places and settled on palawan in the Philippines. Its definitely not what I considered as a honeymoon location before getting engaged, but I am extremely excited and cannot wait to go.

My suggestion is to instead of picking just one place you each really want to go to, make a list of top 3 things you want in your trip: you want beach feel vs. culture of a city, relaxing vs. active vacation, warm weather vs. any weather, etc. That way especially when you add your budget, you’ll narrow it down pretty quickly to few places that fit both of your criteria. Then it’s easier to compromise (when you both already have your criteria met) than choosing South Africa vs Canada, which is totally different lol.

For us, I have my must haves: no countries where women have no basic rights/liberties, no freezing weather, fly for less than 10 hours & contemporary accommodation. My FH’s must haves are: no freezing weather, more adventurous locations ideally with a beach. So when we combine all of these together, we end up with all potential locations that we both will love!

We were in the same pickle. I wanted tropical he wanted cold. We ended up picking a cruise because we both did get a bit of what we wanted. Honestly deciding on the honeymoon had us the most at odds so far haha

Check weather, prices, pros and cons. Maybe do the other in a year or next vacation?

I'll be happy if we can afford anywhere right now lol

I’d make a pro and cons list as well as looking at season, potential activities in each area, and budget. You can always have more than one trip and save one for a later date like your first anniversary too!

I wanted Asia, he wanted the Caribbean so we settled in the middle for Europe lol

My FH and I also wanted to go somewhere “big” and different but we also didn’t want to spend a whole day traveling to and from after having a huge event like a wedding. In that sense I think Banff would be a good option but if travel time isn’t a factor for you guys I’m sure there’s a good compromise you could come up with. Maybe going somewhere other than Banff or South Africa that meets both your interests?

We were all over the place where we wanted to go. Whether we wanted to stay in the States or go abroad. We decided to stay here (leaning towards Las Vagas right now) and we will be aiming to do a bigger trip for our anniversaries (not all of them!). We have been going through a lot this past year, and, unfortunately, there is stuff that is out of our control that is adding stress for the foreseeable future. We are expecting to be very tired (we are going straight to our honeymoon), so don’t want to go to a bucket list destination where we will be determined to be out all day, everyday sightseeing. We figured Vagas has a lot to do, but we won’t feel like we are wasting our trip as much if we want to just stay at the hotel one day.

Have you and your FS spoken about your honeymoon more Justine? Have you both come to a compromise?