What’re y’all getting for Christmas gifts for everyone? Especially for your husband?
Something elaborate & exotic like a vacation?
Or something intimate & romantic like a date night in with a possible back rub?
(A little extra info about myself below and some venting-don’t have to read if you don’t like since it can be lengthy-like I’m best known for🤣-just wanting some advice on what y’all think if you’d like to, if not feel free to post your answer/s to questions above or even just state your favorite part about Christmas).
My husband wants nice house shoes however as much as I want to I’m not able to do surprises anymore for anything. (Which was fun and I miss that) & Neither is he able to do surprises for me haha. Can’t have surprise/last minute parties because of our schedules and since we work where we do our pay isn’t terrible which is nice but it makes it terrible for others when choosing gifts due to us more than likely already purchasing what we want ourselves before anyone else can have a chance at getting it for our birthdays, Christmas, anniversaries etc.
This issue has gradually gotten worse and into our relationship. So now both my husband and I are not really able to do surprises (both party and gift form) nor able to get a gift that the other doesn’t already have besides items that the other has to try on, look at, & have a deep though/talk over before purchasing.
We’ve never been the type that really cared for gifts anyway since we were very young and that’s mainly because it’s usually our birthday party and Christmas when you were able to either eat cake or Christmas cookies. (Were foodies) we were more than okay with that being our only gifts along with of course the best part which is time with friends and family. We would of course always be perfectly fine with receiving our loved ones “presence” over “presents”. So this want for just tome with loved ones mainly (along with the occasional home grown meal) has grown into how we are now and are more than fine with no gift giving at all due to all reasons listed before. Again it’s not even about gifts at all. Or about the tree or the lights. Not even about Santa or the snow. Hot chocolate or candy. Not even really about time with loved ones. Jesus is the reason for the season. (This is what I believe but if you aren’t Christian/Religious that’s cool too and you can post on here what you love about this time of year. Not trying to sway anyone or cause drama or anything at all just stating about myself and my opinions along with giving enough background to hopefully get some needed advice about all this) But we are wanting to tell our family (who for some reason always have an issue with this every year) that we would love to be able to spend time with everyone and not have anyone bother with gift giving unless it’s just for the kids and not for us “kids”. How should we word that? Or should we even say it? Just wondering since it always is so stressful during this tie of year regardless on top of worrying about money for the gifts, finding the gifts, purchasing them, wrapping them etc. and a lot of the time (especially for gifts to us from them) it ends up being nothing they will ever use or need nor even like so it’s all not just a waste of money but also time. Not that we don’t appreciate the thoughtfulness but again we don’t want presents we want their presence in our lives. More time. That’s all we want and I’d say that’s all anyone ever wants. Is more time with their loved ones. What do y’all think? Would you agree with me? Or think I’m just a crazy Chatty Cathy? (Which I know I’m that too 🤣) just let me know y’all’s opinion on this and if I should tell them that we no longer want to do any gift giving. Not worried as much about my husband just about friends/family that insist every year to gift exchange even when we try to veto it. As far as my husband the only gift I need is him❤️. & I’m sure he feels the same way. He’s more than enough for me for my entire life. Just wish others in our life would feel the same as in just be content with time together with them.
Oh also a very Merry Christmas to everyone, Happy Holidays, & Happy New Year! 🎉✨❤️
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