I'm currently having a tough dilemma picking my final bridesmaids. I have a total of 8 and am having a tough time deciding who the last girl should be.
Let's start off with the first girl - we have been friends since high school and have over a decade of memories. She recently got engaged herself and although, I'm not 100% confident, I do have a high feeling that she may ask me to be one of her bridesmaids. Throughout our decade of friendship, I wouldn't say we were super close but she's definitely someone that I've always felt comfortable reaching out to no matter how long it has been since we hung out. I wouldn't say we're super close like how I am with my other bridesmaids but she's definitely dear to my heart as we go way back. We were one of the first few people who we told when we both got engaged but at the same time, she's not really someone who I would go to when I get excited about planning the specific things about my wedding. A weird dynamic I would say.
Now with the second girl - I've known her shorter than the first. We met during college and bonded mainly through partying. We recently only started getting close and I've enjoyed my deep conversations with her after a long night out with our other girlfriends. She recently shared a secret about her boyfriend who she thinks is proposing soon and lets me know that she has not told anyone which made me feel super special that she had trusted me with this secret. However, I feel that I'm only getting swept by the fact that she had made me feel special and that is why I'm strongly considering her as well. I do love this girl as she's one of those girl friends who is always supportive no matter what the scenario is and I feel that I can also go to her for anything.
All in all, I definitely feel closer to the 2nd girl but I feel that I'm being held back due to my long standing relationship with the first girl. I fear our friendship may head the wrong way if I did not ask her but she was planning on asking me. Am I overthinking things? Should I let the other girl know if I end up choosing the other? What are your thoughts on this?
