Chat gpt is giving me the runaround

I also love the phrase "treasured global family" but I have no idea how I can fit it in. "Supported by our treasured global family, H and J cordially invite you blah blah blah"

I think I'm confused. Are you inviting anyone to attend in person? If so, I would keep the invitations only to those people.

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My mother, and possibly my maid of honor, will be the only ones physically there. I do not think my mother would like to be the only recipient of an invitation that features her as the host.

I am sorry you are confused. I do believe you are. Given the circumstances of our wedding which I will not be guilted over *again* on this forum, my in-laws are in corners of the globe where they cannot be physically present. My fiance is immigrating from a country where the currency exchange is abysmal, so his friends and extended family, cannot be physically present. To be fair to that fact, everyone but my mother will also not be physically present. My MOH is invited but I do not know yet if she can come from Australia.

Being as such, 99% of the people I love and care about in my life, cannot be physically present. We are hiring a producer service and doing a privately hosted livestream, complete with interactive chat and hopefully a webcam reception.

I know the angle in these forums is often "what's in it for the guests" but I do not think that's healthy, or fair, to assume that you are invited to a wedding because the bride and groom want things other than your blessing for the marriage.

Now, can we focus on the parameters for the invitation or is this just too out there to be entertained without ostracizing us to elopement status?

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I was trying to be helpful but I wasn't aware of your earlier discussion at all and honestly did not know about what your plan is. Best of luck with your planning.

I'm confused why you're using AI for anything. Why can't you just mail your guests an normal invitation with a link or qr code to where they go to watch the ceremony? For the time situation, I'd just put whatever time zone you are in and guests can figure it out from there. For example, you'd put 5 PM EST. I think you're overcomplicating it. I've included an example. You could leave out virtual since you seem so against it for whatever reason.

Hi Heather! Have you checked out this article, it has a ton of step-by-step advice and wording examples: Your (Stress-Free!) Guide to Wedding Invitation Wording.

The toughest part will be avoiding the "v" word while also making it clear to your guests that it will be a virtual event! Are there other words you feel more comfortable with, like online or digitally??

Here's my best attempt at example wording for you:

Together with their families,

Bride

and

Groom

joyfully invite you to witness their wedding

Date

Time

QR Code

I'm always a fan of using "together with their families" because I think it's a little more vague and inclusive, but you can certainly also call out financially contributing hosts if you'd prefer!

Same thing with inviting people to "witness your wedding" - I think that wording stays vague and it will become clear it's a virtual event once people scan the QR code!

Here are a few more ideas:

Mother of the bride invites you to join groom's dad, groom's mom, and our treasured global family,

as we celebrate love on screen

Bride and Groom

Date

Time

QR Code

- OR-

MOB invites you to share in their joy at the marriage of their daughter,

Bride

to

Groom

Son of groom's dad and groom's mom

Date

Time

QR Code

- OR-

Bride and Groom, together with their families,

invite you to join their treasured global family in witness of their wedding vows

Date

Time

QR Code

Hosting honors do not necessarily go to those who contribute money or in what proportion. They are related to the in person event, however. Considering it's likely only going to be your mother and maybe a friend present, I don't know why you'd name a host at all.

Likewise, personally I wouldn't mail physical invitations to a streaming event since your friends and family members aren't actually being invited in person. I'd keep it simple and email the information about how to sign on, and when.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for the thoughtful reply! In a post-pandemic world where services to make weddings easier and more accessible for K-1 couples like us, we have still experienced a lot of stigma and pushback through this process.


We want to include our family and have the special day that we’ve been building towards for over six years. Is it so wrong to care about having the normal things we can afford to do?
Again, thank you so much. I now feel better equipped to make an amazing invitation for the big day. Cheers!

I would leave GPT out of it altogether, and instead go to one of the invitation sites that allow you to create your own wording. I know Zazzle does this, and it’s quite affordable (you can change the wording on almost all the invitations on their site to fit your needs). I would keep it short, simple & the point. Something to the effect of, “together with their families, (brides name) and (grooms name) invite you to witness their exchange of vows”
Then you could either list the date, time and link below that, or you could say something like “ for more information, visit the link below” or “ for more information, scan the QR code below”.

View Quoted Comment The whole point was working on the wording to fit my situation.

View Quoted Comment Right. And I addressed that.

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Not really but thanks.

I do think you may be complicating it a little. I understand your situation, but I would likely not even mention a host. I would go the "together with their families" route if mentioning anyone at all, and maybe treat it as an announcement with a QR code inviting people to join you in celebration and witness the wedding instead of a RSVP style.


My parents are both deceased and my FH's are both alive. They helped reserve the room for dinner, but the rest is on us. We didn't mention any families, because doing so would have been odd. So instead our invitations just said our names and that we cordially invited the guest to our wedding. Your guests don't need to know who is paying for what, or why, so focus on the event. If you truly want to mention your mother, you can say something like, "Mrs X and the late Mr Y wish to invite you to join in celebration and witness the wedding of A and B... Blah blah blah".
I would avoid ChatGPT altogether. Google searches alone will give you suggestions for your situation if you don't like anything mentioned in this thread. You can still have traditional aspects. Just keep it simple and don't overcomplicate it.

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I agree with most of this, but unfortunately, deceased individuals can't issue invitations. Even if it was appropriate to name hosts or issue formal invitations to a streaming event, it wouldn't be proper to include a late parents name as host.

"Together with their families". You don't need to overcomplicate it - not everyone needs to know who is going to be there and who physically won't. If it really matters to your mom to be distinguished as the host then you could add "hosted by 'Heather's mom'" but that just sounds like more unnecessary information.