Canceled wedding

This seems to be a fairly common issue, and it's just... awful all around.

Were you unable to postpone? The best practice in the industry right now seems to be honoring the contract price at a new date.

View Quoted Comment Thanks, yah I was told i will be given the option to postpone in July. However, we dont want to wait another year to get married and start trying for children. We're in our 30s and find it best for us not to wait any longer. Its def a difficult situation. Our venue are nice people and we still would love tonhave our wedding, but the thought of masks and temp checks for guests is not something I want to remember or have involved in our special day. We would much rather then have an intimate ceremony with out immediate family members. Just dont know what will happen with the contract if we do cancel 🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Yeah, I totally get that. Good luck!

According to my contract they can reimburse due to Mother Nature. The contract says they can only postpone for a later date. If we cancel we lose money. Honestly most businesses do not have pandemic insurance. Is unknown for us still cause our wedding is 10/17/20

View Quoted Comment Yeah its so frustrating.... one week I keep saying Im guna cancel, then the next week I want to have it, then the next week I change my mind again... idk. I think im most tired of not knowing what Im doing.

View Quoted Comment Sam, Glad to talk cause is scary and confusing!
I am on the same boat as you
Eve

I feel the same. Our contract and the venue's forever policy says that they do not provide refunds under any circumstance. At the time they are letting people change their wedding dates at no additional charge. We changed our date from june to december, don't know how things are gonna be then. If we could get our money back or at least letting them keep the first payment, I would probably cancel. But like you, I feel like cancelling one day and another I don't feel like cancelling.

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This sounds so much like our situation! Our original date was 5/16/20 and we eloped on that day. We have our big ceremony & reception postponed to 7/10/20 (being a Friday wedding now, we lose out on a few aspects of the venue that our Saturday wedding would have given us, such as lodging, which creates more planning & cost).

But at this rate we're starting to consider completely canceling and taking the financial hit. We only have two vendors that are a bigger financial loss. We have a bunch of money we've been saving to pay vendors and other things, and we are considering using that money and whatever we can get back from vendors to buy a house.

We're also in our 30's and want to start a family asap and waiting until next year just doesn't seem right for us. We may do a back yard anniversay party next May... but, the idea of having to navigate all these new potenital restrictions seems stressful amoung all the other typical stressors of a big wedding. Besides that, at this point our big day is slowly turning into less than what we had originally planned for 2 years ago, and we'd much rather put all that money into our home and starting a family than on one day that is only partially the way we originally wanted it.

View Quoted Comment I totally get it. Thats exactly what we've been thinking. Seeing the money we've been saving and also being in our 30's..it just doesnt make sense anymore. All the fun amd excitement has been taken away and the only thing left is a financial burden, worrying about family getting sick, and the wonder of what the heck will the restrictions be!? Every state has had different restrictions in place, it's almost impossible to guess. Smh.. we're going to call our venue again on June 13th and demand answers on what our wedding would look like if we were to have it, what the guests limit is, etc. They've given no answers to us thus far and if they dont have anything then either, we're going to cancel. Its not worth it anymore at this point to keep holding on. I wish you the best of luck with everything though! Fingers crossed that everything works out no matter what you decide.

View Quoted Comment I agree, all the fun has been sucked out of planning! Plus, at this point I just keep thinking, "ugh.. i would have been done by now!" Lol.. we've been planning for 2 years..


Best of luck to you too!!

I’m right in the same boat as you! All the stress and uncertainty just wasn’t worth it to us anymore. The wedding will not look the way we wanted it anytime soon and we didn’t want to keep putting money towards it. We ended up cancelling our venue. My wedding was for July 17 and we first postponed it to October then we canceled completely we received a credit for what we already paid to use up until two years. I wasn’t exactly happy about not getting a refund but maybe if I’m in a better place in two years I can have a smaller scale party. The way I looked at it with this situation is that the money that I lost is way less then the money we would have put in for a day to not look the way wanted it. Either way we’re still getting married on our original date and hope to maybe have a back yard reception on our 1 year anniversary next year but unfortunately the unknowns and restrictions are just not worth the thousands of dollars I would have put into the day. It’s a really tough choice to make to cancel but it’s all about what you feel is best for you and your partner. I wish you all the best!!

View Quoted Comment Yeah, Im starting to think its going the end up being a canceled wedding the closer it gets. I keep holding onto hope that things will grt better but....like you said, I just dont see it being what we pictured our wedding to be. And at that point, why waste time and money when it can go towards something else. Thanks so much for your thoughts. Best of luck to you amd your future hubby aswell!

View Quoted Comment Of course !! And thank you!!💕

View Quoted Comment Hi San,
I decided to postpone my Fall Wedding to Spring 2021. I feel so much better now!

Good luck

I see that I am super late to this thread, but also in the same boat.

I work in the event management business and work on several large events, including one that rhymes with hummervest.

Pretty much everything is cancelling, however these contracts are tricky. Most have a clause known as Force Majure which refers to an act of god, natural disaster, pandemic, etc. The trick is, in order for Force Majure to be applied, the city or region the event is taking place has to be the one to call it that. Unfortunately having 50 states, there have been 50 different responses, so a lot of instances aren't allowing force majure as "small events can still take place with safe practices and social distancing". Unfortunately that means squat to a hotel/venue so you're basically at the mercy of their kind-heartedness.

We were planning our wedding in November, but with the pandemic, the protests, and then the suspected second wave we just don't see ourselves being able to make that work as well as inviting our older and immuno-compromised family members. We will be doing a tiny courthouse wedding with me, the hubs, and the judge and then we can focus our funds and positivity towards purchasing our first home in the spring.

Good Luck with whatever you decide. Just remember our hubbies love us with or without all the pomp and circumstance.

I have no intention of cancelling my wedding however my venue told me i would be refunded only if government restrictions do not allow it to happen. if weddings are allowed then its like “my fault” for cancelling which i totally understand

View Quoted Comment Yep...mine basically told me the same thing. Smh...im curious to know after phase 4, what will happen then. Since gatherings are now restricted to 25 yet Cuomo said June 26th can have graduation ceremonies outdoors of up to 150ppl. Its very contradictory to me, idk...

View Quoted Comment Well we know theres a lot of hypocrisy going on. Im hoping at least 75 but we’ll see!

View Quoted Comment Hi Sam
I postponed wedding March 2021 feel so much better. The venue will not charge me 2021 fees and I didn’t lose any of my vendors. All I need is attire.

Hope your wedding is all sort out and wishing you all the best.

View Quoted Comment My venue isnt charging for postponments but our aug 30th date is special to us bc its my FH's grandmothers birthday. Which means if we did postpone, it would literally be a year from now and anything can happen in one year. I surely dont want to put my future on hold due to the pandemic, but idk what we're guna do 😔 Hoping for the best!