Hello my fellow lovely brides! I need some help. Back when my fiancé and I got engaged, I was getting to know his female best friend (known each other for 16 years) and thought it would be a nice gesture to ask her to be a bridesmaid. So I did. Let’s call her G. G is married to another one of my fiancé’s long time friends. They were the three amigos all through high school and college years. When I asked her, it was about a year to the wedding. At the beginning of 2023, we decided to postpone our wedding due to life circumstances, and our wedding is now in March of 2024. Since then, this bridesmaid and I have had a couple interactions (she lives in Washington) but those interactions have not been great. She and I are like oil and water. I try to be friends but through her actions, it’s clear she doesn’t want to be friends with me.
Safe to say, I’m not exactly relishing the thought of having her in my bridal party. A lot has changed since we postponed the wedding and I don’t feel close to her at all. She only reaches out to me if she wants something, and even when she is in town, she makes no effort to hang out with me or my fiancé. Even my fiancé is confused by her actions. Anyways, to wrap this up: can you un-bridesmaid someone? How does one go about this? Her husband is a groomsman too… or do I need to just include her since it’s all so messy? I’m afraid if I do un-bridesmaid her, she’ll pull her husband out of the wedding and it will ruin the friendship. Thanks in advance!
Post content has been hidden
To unblock this content, please click here