Bridesmaids dresses

If your girls are busty, they are going to look busty no matter what they wear. Even more modest necklines will oftentimes still “show off the girls”, at no fault of their own. I think the only way you won’t “see the girls” is to choose a dress with a high neck.

View Quoted Comment Yes. I told her. I may have you all wear haulter type dresses and she went mute 😩

View Quoted Comment You’re likely in a position where you will need to decide what is more important- your bridesmaids’ happiness with their dresses, or your desired look in photos. While it is becoming more popular to allow bridesmaids to choose their own dresses, it is not out of the ordinary for the bride to choose them either. If you really want them in a high neckline, then you can choose the BM dress you want them to wear. A lot of the weddings I’ve been in as a BM, the bride chose our dress and that was it 🤷🏼‍♀️ If you want them to have some say in the dress, you could pick out several different styles from the same line that compliment eachother and let them choose from the choices you give them. Another nice gesture in this situation would be to pay for their dresses, since you are choosing them without their input and you know they aren’t happy with them (so definitely won’t wear them again). Not having to shell out money for a dress they don’t want would at least soften the blow a bit.

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It may be because you said halter dress, which can be very unflattering on women with large chests. I wear a DD, and any type of halter shirt or dress just makes me look like I have boulders in a sling, Lol. Have you asked them what style dress they prefer or are comfortable in (especially the bodice)?

If you're this worried, just pick the BM dress you'd like them wear. That's pretty normal and then you get say.

Yes, consider paying for them for sure or pay for 1/2 and pick them out yourself. Make sure they are self supported dresses with boning and if not make sure they can wear a bra with the dress by getting dresses with sleeves. Avoid hugging stretchy material and go for a higher quality material dress with a higher quality construction.

View Quoted Comment So I should pay for them just because I don't want their boobs in my face in photos ? .... that sounds ridiculous.

We got our dresses from Macy’s and they were almost $250 but they were worth it. My daughters felt very confident in them and it showed in the pictures. I noticed they are having some good sales right now on higher neck styles. You can order multiple sizes and bring back what doesn’t fit.

View Quoted Comment Thanks. I def don't want my girls uncomfortable. Just respectfully covered. I dont think that is asking much. 🤔

You don’t have to pay.

Also keep in mind that while you're thinking about "the girls," they may be thinking about other unflattering issues. My upper arms would look awful in a halter dress. Maybe make sure you're on the same page as they are, and that you're both considering the same issue. I'm sure there's some style that you can agree on that would make everyone happy! Maybe also consider just having everyone wear the same color, but different styles, so they can get something they like.

View Quoted Comment Yes I just threw halter out there in this message. Just meaning covered. Not these deep v neck and boobaliciois dresses!


I love boobs. Just maybe not in all my forever wedding photos lol
I never ever thought I would feel this way I'm also battling one of my girls being super tatted. And it clashing in photos . I have a shoulder piece and am considering covering. Noway I can get her covered though.
I feel like I was so excited I didn't think through this party much 😩 😅
Shall survive Thanks for yalls input.

I honestly think you’re overthinking this a little. My MOH has large boobs and is much taller than me and I was still the focal point in all my photos. I think it’s fine to ask them to choose more modest dresses but as someone who’s had large boobs since I was 12, they’re going to be there and be noticeable no matter what I wear.

View Quoted Comment Yeah im not trying to have them look smaller. I just don't want them out. Thats all

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I completely agree with this. I was just a bridesmaid in a wedding where all of the other girls have smallish boobs and mine are so big I'm the only person who needed to use boob tape so they would be properly supported and at least look decent. Our dresses had a deep v in the front and from the pictures she's posted so far I didn't even notice my own chest when I'm aware that I was worried about it day of. Looking at them now, they don't look like they're distracting or "out" at all when I know there was a ton of cleavage there.

If you pick styles that obviously try to "hide" them it's probably going to end up being more noticeable to people than if you tell them that you'd like something a bit more modest. You can find modest dresses that aren't full halter tops to their neck. I'd be offended if someone asked me to do that because I'd get super self conscious about what I look like on a daily basis when I don't mind showing them a little. Talk to your bridesmaids openly and tell them that you'd prefer their dresses to be modest. That's so much nicer than saying you don't want their boobs out. They'll be able to help steer you towards some styles that will cover them, but won't make them feel as though you're making them hide part of themselves that they can't help.

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I would recommend trying to work with your bridesmaids and find middle ground. I was once at a wedding where a bridesmaid had a very low cut dress and ended up wearing a sweater after the ceremony because she was very close to falling out of the dress. I would just phrase your concerns as you want your bridesmaids to feel comfortable and have fun. Go shopping with them and just be honest if something feels too low cut. Express concerns about potentially more conservative family members in attendance and wanting a more overall modest look.

View Quoted Comment Yes thanks 😊 def agree with how to go about it. Lol

As someone with a big bust, I honestly hate it when people say to cover up because sometimes it is VERY hard to conceal them, no matter what you wear. That's not to say you can't request them to dress a bit more modestly, but I think you need to word it correctly. Some bustier girls can be very self-conscious of it and you wouldn't know because they play it off like it's an asset. That's how we as women are taught to think so I know most people just go with it. Halters do NOT look good on me, so I avoid them at all costs. My cousin has a very similar body type to mine and she swears by one shoulder dresses. They cover her up enough but accent her in a nice way. So maybe discuss a few other options, but tread lightly. I assume you picked these girls because they mean a lot to you, not because of how they look. If you're too critical of their appearance, they may start to resent you. Also, nobody is going to pay attention to your bridesmaids anyways. All attention will be on you!

View Quoted Comment You're right. It was a rushed feeling when I made this post. Lol
Idk how to turn off comments or delete it or I would. I get it. He'll I'm a D cup myself. So. 🤣