Hello everyone, my fiance and I are having a mild disagreement. He prefers the look of bridesmaids all wearing the same shade and color, whereas I like the idea of mixed colors within the color scheme (and also same material for continuity). Our wedding color scheme is neutrals+green, so I was thinking of doing bridesmaid dress colors in cream and sage, with maybe a third color like frost (light gray) or champagne. I personally don't like the idea of all of them wearing the same color.
My fiance doesn't want this, which is fine. He says that the reason they should all be the exact same is that they are "supposed to symbolize unity," and if the bridesmaids aren't all wearing the same exact color and shade, it disregards the importance of the symbol of unity. He says that "the meaning should be more important than the aesthetic." I have never heard that bridesmaids dresses are supposed to symbolize this. What's more important to me is that the bridesmaids are people I love and support, and they love and support me. I also think it's nice to allow bridesmaids to have some autonomy to choose a between two or three colors, because people have different skin tones and body types and can make their look reflect themselves, too.
Ultimately he says it's fine if I choose the mismatched dresses (he admits this isn't his hill to die on), but he is still bothered that it's breaking with tradition.
Does anyone else have the same view about the unity symbolism and if so, could you articulate it for me so I can better understand that perspective? My goal is not to prove that I'm right but just to understand better.
