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Kristin
Dedicated July 2019

Bridal Shower - Went surprisingly well!

Kristin, on June 25, 2019 at 2:27 PM Posted in Parties and Events 0 15

Due to some prior family drama (divorced parents, etc) my father's side of the family decided that they were going to throw me a separate bridal shower and boycott the one that I had assisted with planning and paying for (and actually wanted to attend).. I was pretty bummed initially, but just decided to carry out the initial plans anyways.

There were only 10 people in attendance, so we had a ton of leftover food and drinks but I think it worked out for the best - I felt like I was actually able to talk and spend time with each group, so I didn't feel guilty for neglecting anyone!

Advice on politely responding to the "guests" next weekend at the forced shower if they mention this one? I think it was an honest mistake, made worse by lack of communication, but I'm still a little frustrated.

Down to 32 days, now!Bridal Shower - Went surprisingly well! 1


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Latest activity by Kristin, on June 26, 2019 at 11:10 AM
  • M
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    Melle ·
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    It looks really wonderful!
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  • Kristin
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    Thank you!!

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  • Gen
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    Gen ·
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    I'm so glad you had such a great day! A smaller group is better honestly I think. My shower had 17 people and I definitely wouldn't have wanted more than that. I went to a shower this past weekend that had 50 people and the bride seemed really overwhelmed and barely got to talk to anyone but her bridal party which was disappointing... it was like a small wedding in itself lol, which was super unnecessary and felt very impersonal.

    Who were your attendees at this shower? I think that is relevant to how you will explain it to the guests at the other one. Like if it was just bridal party, just friends, just relatives, etc....

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  • Diana
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    I’m sorry for your family drama. Your picture is beautiful!! Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!!
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  • MrsD
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    You look so cute! I'm sorry you are dealing with immature adults, that isn't fair at all. I'd just tell them you had two showers, one for each parent's side.

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  • Kristin
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    Very true! I was happy to see everyone meeting & getting along nicely, too Smiley smile

    I was attempting to have just the one shower so it was my bridesmaids, maternal side of the family, and his mom/sister - basically, everyone except those who decided they weren't willing to make peace for the day.. I suppose they'll have to get over it at the wedding, though!


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  • Kristin
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    Thank you so much!! I'm hoping that it will all fade away since I'm just moving on and trying not to let things blow up out of proportion.

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  • Kristin
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    Kristin ·
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    Awe, thank you!! I may just do that, easier to play along than give in to the crazy Smiley smile

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  • Gen
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    Wow, that's so obnoxious and I am so sorry you have to deal with that... ridiculous that they couldn't just get along for one day for you? Ugh. So wait, the people at the other shower will be all the people who refused to go to this one? If that's the case, I don't think you owe them any explanation.......

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  • Kristin
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    Pretty much! A couple had valid excuses, and decided to attend the other since they were free that day.. but the majority are just being difficult, unfortunately.

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  • Gen
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    Ugh. I would hope they wouldn't have the nerve to ask then why there were 2... if they do, maybe just say something like to accommodate everyone's schedules. Hopefully that will be enough that they'll stop asking.

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  • Katie
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    Congrats ! I’m glad everything went well
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  • Sinéad
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    You look beautiful! I'm so happy that you still had a great day, despite the misunderstanding!

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  • Kristin
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    Thank you! Smiley smile

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  • Kristin
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    Thank you so much!!

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