Bridal Shower: Enough is Enough

I personally would address the group first, but there's a good chance that talking to them won't solve your problem. Unfortunately, paying the remaining balance for the cost would induce the least amount of drama.

Did they agree to co-host the shower and pay the $50 and then back out? Or was a request for $50 sent to them without any discussion?

You are absolutely correct! The same girl called me while in the midst of planning the bachelorette party to say that she did not realize what she signed up for. And that she thought everything was going to be held the same week so it would be easy for out of town guests instead of being space out. So I had to remind her that she was the one who said that she would make it to everything as long as it was spaced out and had advance notice because she works for the airline and catching a flight was not the issue. When it came down to it she said she can't make the shower because she has to babysit her 15yo nephew, cant make the bach because she has other trips planned and doesnt have enough time off, and has complained about every expense. My biggest thing is communication, i have no probelm paying and being reiumbursed etc. but she doesnt say anything. They have literaly only paid for makeup (in january) and a dress deposit (a montho ago). The remaining blance was due yesterday, the maid of honor reminded the group and the same bridesmaid did not respond or send the funds even though everyone knew a month in advance. And I told everyone the dresses cannot be begin production until the entire balance was paid off.

I've addressed the group several times mainly about communicating and meeting deadlines...just siple deadlines like selecting a dress, a haitstyle, or even a makeup artist. Everyone reads the messages and do not reply. So it got to the point where I just had to start making the decisions and letting them know what we are doing/going with. I feel like I've been repeating myself over and over.

Everyone is supposed to pitch in, they agreed on a starting blance of $50 and were advised that they would need another balance towards the end to cover final costs.

Yeah, I rather just pay it but my bridesmaids who are planning do not want me to pay a dime and I just dont think its fair to them.

I'm not sure if you misunderstood or didn't comprehend when I used the term members, but, bridesmaids, maid of honor, and matron of honor are all definitely members of the bridal party. And yes, I don't know when it became their responsibility or duty either. All I know is it was that way before I got married and it will probably remain that way after I get married.

Majority of the stuff I look up or know because I was in other people's weddings, and yes, there are defnitely financial obligations and support needed in addition to standing by the brides side in the dress of their choosing on the wedding day. There's no way you can be in a wedding and not have any financial obligation. And if this isn't for you you can always say NO.

This. pre-wedding parties are not their responsibility though. You can't MAKE people attend or pay for those. Those aren't obligations, and are considered gifts for you. Everyone does NOT need to "help pull their weight".

Hair and makeup if you're requiring it, you should be paying for it.

I would pay for whatever financial deficits for your pre-wedding events. I would also pay for their hair and makeup if you're requiring it.