Bridal party

I’m struggling with this too a bit! We are over our guest list by about 10 people right now so I think I’m going to tell them there’s a chance they’ll get a plus one if we get declines. I think they will all understand especially since they’re in the wedding party anyways. I have a feeling I’ll get enough declines to include their guests if they truly want to bring one but I think some will come single and be okay with it too.

I asked them if they wanted a plus one (the single bridesmaids & groomsmen). None of them did! The ones with SOs are bringing them and the others are coming alone.

It depends on what you want. I am not giving out plus ones to my wedding party but only 1 is single and she knows other people at the wedding. Will any of them not know a single person if you don't give them a plus one?

Offering the bridal party plus ones is the traditional/polite thing to do, but that doesn’t mean they *have* to bring someone. None of the single members of our BP opted to bring a random date, they all just chose to attend solo.

We gave everyone a plus one but not everyone took us up on that. Also if your wedding is more than a year away you need to prepare for the possibility that they could be in a relationship by then.

I am going to ask them as well. Only 4 out of 12 have a serious relationship. They will also be plenty busy getting ready, taking photos, and being in the ceremony to entertain/accompany a guest. They might just say no. I also don't really want randos at my wedding.

I would give them a plus one since they're in your bridal party. But I think it's ok to ask them ahead of time also.

We aren't going to give a plus one to anyone who's not in a relationship, including the bridal party. The only exception is people who won't know anyone else at the wedding. I don't want anyone to feel uncomfortable in a group of strangers.

I don't think it's necessary to. I think a plus one of the bridal party would actually be very uncomfortable and bored for a lot of the wedding since their date would be busy with the couple, taking photos, etc. If they have an SO of course invite them, and if they specifically ask you if they can bring a date I would probably say yes, but I wouldn't just offer it up. We didn't offer plus ones to any of our single bridal party members because I was sure they wouldn't want one anyway.

I told my single bridal party friends that they were welcome to bring someone special but they all opted out of it

I'm only giving plus ones to bridesmaids who are married, or in long term relationships. Most of the groomsmen are very single and as of now, not getting plus one for budget reasons. We will determine closer to wedding date (once we get RSVPs) of we can have room for guests.

Only one of my bridesmaids is single right now. I had an honest conversation with her and said she can have a plus one if she wants. We both agreed that it would be silly to bring a random friend that she won't be able to see for most of the day so she said she will only use the plus one if she starts seriously seeing someone.

I gave all my bridal party plus ones and only 1 of them used it. I wouldn't expect your BM's to just bring random friends.

View Quoted Comment I agree with the plus one being bored. My fiancé (boyfriend at the time), was the best man at a wedding and I was the plus one. He sat with the couple and the reset of the bridal party while I sat with the other plus ones. I didn’t know anyone, and I met the couple a week previous to the wedding. I was glad and honored to be invited. I didn’t have a bad time but I spent a bit of time by myself.

I would consider that your wedding is still almost a year and a half away. Plan for all of them to have an SO so that if the single ones get in a relationship by then you’ll have space on your guest list. If they aren’t dating anyone, you can ask them when it’s time to send out invites.