Bachelorette Lingerie Alternatives

I wasn't aware that gifts are now a thing for bachelorettes. If it were me, I'd just say no gifts needed, and just having them attend is amazing.

I think this was a thing that used to be done in the 80's. I would just tell your friend that you prefer no gifts and everyone can just enjoy the festivities planned.

It sounds like they were trying to have a lingerie shower at the bachelorette which I have seen done before but if its not your thing I think I d just say you appreciate the idea but that's not your thing and you'd feel bad for people to spend money on items you just don't seeing yourself using. If they really want some kind of theme you can do a stock the bar party or bring your fave recipe (to create a newlywed cookbook/recipe box). Personally though I d steer clear of asking people to spend more money. Whatever you decide I hope you have fun BP!

View Quoted Comment I said that, but it sounds like they still want to do something cute and fun. They were telling me all about the games and stuff that they’ve found online. They’re really getting into it. I’m just happy that they’re having fun planning it!

View Quoted Comment They seem pretty intent on getting me something. I told them not to worry about spending money on me but I would try to think of something else just in case they still wanted to do it. I do like the stock the bar thing. I did think about asking for books to read or even some type of vinyl because I love using my cricut and vinyl is pretty inexpensive. I’ve been making all of their personalized bridesmaids gifts myself.

Please don't "ask" for anything. Games and fun things are one thing, and if anyone is so intent on giving you a gift, they can just surprise you. In your place I'd let them know I'm uncomfortable with the idea of multiple gift giving parties, or any expectations along those lines especially at an event that's not about gifts. Too often, there's someone or a group of someones who feel pressured into spending money because an organizer or two thought it was a great idea. I'd just say no.

If you really want a bachelorette party, maybe do a movie night? You could ask everyone to bring a snack, pick the movie in advance, and decide where you're having it (ie whose house). It would be great for a small group (10 or less) and super fun (not to mention a nice break from last minute wedding stuff). You could wear pajamas and make it a sleepover if you want!

View Quoted Comment I haven’t asked them to get me anything. Them traveling to my bachelorette is more than enough, but they are still wanting the option of gifting me something. That’s what this post was about. I rather them not waste money on something I wouldn’t wear and wanted to give them option if they choose to.

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Sure. Were you able to get that message out to people being invited?