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Erika
Just Said Yes May 2017

Baby due 2 weeks after planned wedding date...eeek!

Erika, on September 25, 2016 at 9:47 AM Posted in Fitness and Health 0 28

Hey ladies, I'm looking for some advice. My wedding date is set for May 13, 2017...I have started planning for my big day. I have my venue, my photographer, wedding coordinator, planning on engagement session, etc., BUT...I just found out on Monday that I'm pregnant (very early) and that my due date is 2 weeks after my wedding date (eeeekkk!!!). No one knows yet except for my fiancé of course. We've been thinking about postponing the wedding but I kind of just want to go through with it. Plus my chosen wedding date is the day before Mother's Day. Just curious to know if you were me what would you do?

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Latest activity by Hannah, on January 27, 2022 at 10:36 AM
  • Katelina1
    VIP June 2017
    Katelina1 ·
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    First of all, congratulations!!! That's exciting news!!!

    As for the wedding, either move the date up or postpone it. The thing about babies is they come when they want to come...which could easily be two weeks early. You don't want to go into labor on your wedding day, right???

    If you postpone it, give yourself a healthy 6 months after having the baby. But if you can afford it, I'd move it up!

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  • GeeQT
    Expert November 2017
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    Congratulations! Postpone it, not healthy to stress while your pregnant. Also you can have the baby in the pictures so many of us can't say our children were in our wedding! That would be so special!

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  • I
    Dedicated September 2018
    Ixchel ·
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    Congrats!! I will postpone the wedding just cause they gave you a due date your baby can come sooner then that.. I have 2 kids with my first one he came 10 days before due date and for My daughter she came 7 days before due date.. or if you really want to be married before your baby gets here then just move the wedding sooner.. it's really up to you and your FH..

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  • Mrs.D
    Master July 2016
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    I'd move it up or seriously postpone it. I was MISERABLE the last several months of my pregnancy and my son came exactly two weeks early.

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  • Lacy
    Super March 2017
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    Congrats! Definitely either bump it up or postpone. I'd hate for you to put deposits on everything then not get the day because you're baby party starts early!

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  • SarahL2T
    VIP April 2017
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    Congratulations!!! That's so exciting =)

    FH and I had this conversation (not pregnant, not trying) and what we said we would do if we were in this situation would be to do a quickie courthouse wedding and postpone the reception (now a "celebration of marriage") until a year after the baby is born.

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  • L
    Super October 2017
    Lisa ·
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    Definitely postpone it! All 3 of my kids came early. I know it doesn't happen to everyone but there's always a good chance!

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  • FMP
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    I would postpone at least 1 year in case the baby comes early. I just had my 2nd baby in July. The recovery process is going to take some time, and your hands are going to be FULL with a newborn. You need at least a year to reach any kind of normalcy. At about a year, they are learning to walk so you don't need to hold them 24/7, they're on regular milk (unless you choose to breastfeed over 1 year), they're usually sleeping through the night. Just do yourself a favor and give yourself a year to bounce back. Trust me, that year is going to fly by.

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  • HoneyLife
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    I would wait until the baby is viable, after 12-13 weeks, then postpone the wedding. I also wouldn't announce anything until pass 12-13 weeks.

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  • Trista(soontobeSmith)
    Expert June 2018
    Trista(soontobeSmith) ·
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    Congrats! I'd recommend postponing because you never know when a baby my decide to come or (and I'm praying this doesn't happen) if you may end up on bed rest the last month (I was in partial bed rest with both of mine the last month). Plus from what I hear a bride can be really stressed by the time the wedding comes and that would be bad for both you and baby.

    On the plus side, if you postpone it a year you can add the baby to the ceremony! My son will be two when we get married and he's gonna be our "ring security"! I've seen people have someone walk an infant down the aisle as an extra ring bearer or flower girl!

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  • Sarah195
    Master October 2016
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    I just had my first child and I gotta say having a wedding would be the last thing I'd wanna do 2 weeks before my due date! I was so tired, achey, crabby, bloated, and miserable. I just wanted to lay in bed and cuddle with my dog. But each woman is different. I would highly recommend moving it up or postponing it until after you have your baby because like previous posters said babies come when they want to and you could easily go into labor early.

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  • Simca
    Super April 2017
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    Congratulations! I would move it forward or postpone it. It would be a lot to take on and it's taking a chance.

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  • Nefferini
    Devoted November 2016
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    I agree with waiting a few weeks until you decide anything.... I don;t want to be the downer, but just wait.... if indeed you remain as you are, either postpone it, or embrace it as first family memory Smiley smile

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  • MNA
    Master April 2018
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    Move it up or postpone it. It is absolutely not uncommon to have the baby as early as 38 weeks, and the stress of planning both a wedding and for the arrival of baby (two extremely expensive occurrences) could easily make that happen.

    If you move it forward, I'd do so by at least a month, or move it back at least 3-4 months. You don't want to be having a wedding 2 or 3 weeks post-Partum (or even up to 6!) while you're still bleeding heavily and sleep-deprived.

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  • Erika
    Just Said Yes May 2017
    Erika ·
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    Thanks ladies for the advise. This has been helpful. At this point because I'm still early in my pregnancy im not going to make any decisions until I'm a little further along but this will definitely be a decision that will be on my mind until hopefully I can let people know of my new status.

    Thanks

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  • Niki
    Master June 2016
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    My niece came 2 weeks early. One friend was 3.5 weeks early, another was 2 weeks late and on the verge of being induced. Its impossible to predict.

    Definitely postpone (realistically, until the baby is at least 10 months old or so - before that, planning a wedding will be the last thing on your mind) or move the wedding up.

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  • FFW
    Master August 2016
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    Congrats! Depends on your financial situation. If I were in your shoes I'd want to push it up. Even as early as Dec/Jan. Jan is relatively slow for weddings so maybe ask you vendors if theirs and dates in January that work for them. Tell them you're pregnant and looking to move things along. I am certainly one for enjoying time. I wouldn't want to be planning a wedding worried about baby showers and birth around the same time.

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  • FishingBride
    Super February 2017
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    Congrats! I would move up or postpone. Babies come when they want (my niece cAme only after 25weeks and 5 days ) . Also you will be at the stage in your pregnancy where you may just be done with it all and for me I felt like a bloated whale that needed backup noises to sit down. You don't want to feel like that oh your wedding day.

    Either way it's your choice.

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  • Gracie
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    Congratulations!!! That is such great news! See if your vendors can adjust their schedules to a few months earlier, or push the wedding date at least 4 months back. Are you comfortable with showing your baby bump in your wedding dress? I know some people are concerned about looking pregnant in their wedding dress. (If you already have your dress can they alter it to fit you pregnant?) Whichever you do I'm sure will still be a wonderful day and you will look beautiful!

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  • future_mrs_c2018
    Super October 2017
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    I would wait because pregnancy can be stressful, haven't been through it yet, but I've seen my sister and my brothers ex wife go through it

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