Asked best friends to be my bridesmaid/moh but feel like we all aren’t close anymore?

We have all been best friends for a long long time. I met my MOH when I was a senior in high school and she was a freshman in college. We have been through some crazy, wild times that has always put her as family in my eyes. I met my bridesmaid/other best friend when I became a traveling manager for a food franchise & I was her boss. She didn’t like me at first lol but we became inseparable. I introduced her to my MOH and the rest was history. We have been a close friend group since. We would do everything together & talked about everything. We would take trips to different places & we would drop anything if one of us needed something.


I have noticed over the last couple of years, there has been kind of a drift. Bridesmaid moved to the other side of the country with her boyfriend, I also moved but came back after a year & MOH just seemed to quietly step back a bit. I am always reaching out to the group chat & getting us talking. None of them ever reach out first. When birthdays come around, I always make sure to reach out immediately & send gifts. But when my birthdays have come around, I receive no message or gifts. I don’t mind the gifts thing, but a message that maybe I’m on your mind wouldBe nice ya know? I help plan their parties, but none of ever given effort for mine. When MOH family member got sick, I checked in every week because I care & know what it feels like to go through the same thing. But I recently was injured at work & had major surgery & I am currently laid up at home & neither of them reached out. My MOH is getting married in May. She didn’t ask bridesmaid or me to be in her wedding. It hurt a lot but she said it was because of family & I understood that. Her wedding is a destination wedding that is so expensive & I can barely afford it. She says it’s fine if I can only stay a day or if I can’t always participate in things but when it gets brought up, she gets a look on her face & I know it bothers her. I’m her only friend that’s in a lower range than her & our other friends. I know this has turned into a ramble but I just wanted to lay down what I see through my side lately. It breaks my heart constantly. I just wish the people who I have regarded as my family for years and years, would reach out sometimes & not forget about me.My problem is I’m so scared that they won’t support me during my wedding. That they won’t do their duties that I know I’d bend over backwards myself to do for them. I keep thinking we should say F it & just elope. But my fiancé doesn’t want that kind of wedding.
What do I do? Do I let it play out & see what happens after all the weddings & see if any of us even chat anymore? Should I stop putting in any effort in these friendships & just do what they have been doing to me? I understand people grow & have their lives & sometimes just drift apart, but I don’t want to be the only one holding the line together anymore.