Argument

I agree with you but it is also hard to tell someone their friend is not welcome at the same time. I agree you two should have come up with an agreement and have been on the same page and it is wrong for the friend to have invited himself. I know personally I would be bothered if my FH told me a friend of mine cannot come over to our house even if we disagree. I think like you said you two should over some drinks talk the issue out calmly and come to a compromise you two can agree to. I do not want you to feel I am being harsh but I am seeing the other side too.

I can see where you're coming from. my husband and i had this convo because during the pandemic and our city's shelter in place order, he wanted to get his tattoo finished up and yet he didn't like the idea of me taking a CPR class... weird right? ahah

you want to get your tattoo done and yet think that's more important than me learning CPR [i am taking medical assistant program and sports medicine classes soon so i'm just adding to my knowledge].

anyway we spoke about it and we said ok, we just wanted to look out for one another and decided that both of us would stop those things and do them only when things have died down. it's a conversation you gotta have where you just gotta say like we need to have some ground rules that are mutually appealing to both sides.

Oh no and trust me you have every right to be royally (insert expletive) about that. That is completely wrong and if that day you were busy then that is even worse. I agree it does not hurt to talk to hubby and let him now why it bothered you and I think couples that live together it is natural to have to discussions once in awhile about a disagreement to make sure it does not happen in the future. I say do it over wine because well...wine is amazing ha ha. Sorry that you had an argument.

I'm with you on this, and the friend sounds pretty terrible and flaky. I'm guessing your husband just saw it as, he wanted to see his friend. Although that's understandable, the principle of the situation is that the friend is just doing what he wants with no regard for anyone else, and that's not acceptable in my book.

Honestly, this isn't a "I'm on x's side" issue. Y'all are a team (a pretty big part of marriage in general). You both faced an issue, agreed on what to do, and he went against the agreed-upon reaction. Friend or not, it's super rude to just say "I'm coming to your house." ESPECIALLY with the whole, you know, global pandemic thing going on. This isn't a "you told me my friend couldn't come over" thing, it was something you both agreed on.

Also OP, the burden of explaining to him why going against the joint agreement shouldn't fall on you. I do agree with having a conversation while you're both calm; agreements between the two of you should be honored.

Oh of course and good luck.

Sounds like B is not a good friend