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Stevie
Devoted February 2020

Are Wedding Blues real?

Stevie, on February 10, 2020 at 8:47 PM Posted in Married Life 0 17

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I am 11 days until my wedding and I am already feeling so sad that it's almost over... along with some other things. Is wedding day blues real? What did you guys do after the wedding? any projects, "goals" etc to keep your mind occupied.


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Latest activity by Alejandra, on February 12, 2020 at 7:42 PM
  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
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    Wedding blues are absolutely real. I’ve been married 4 months and still get so sad that it’s over! I love being married and I loved everything about my wedding, but I miss the planning process so much! Staying on the forums and giving brides advice knowing what I learning from my wedding has been fun. And we just bought a new house, so I’m stay occupied with that!
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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
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    I started to feel this about a month after the wedding. I always scoffed at the idea of post wedding blues before, but it’s real! It felt like an emotional sugar crash lol. Like you’ve been planning this for so long and you’ve probably been excited about “your wedding” for most of your life. Then you have the best day of your life... and then it’s just OVER in a matter of a few hours.



    Honestly, my best advice is just be easy on yourself, let yourself be a little sad! It’s normal and there’s nothing wrong with feeling let down that it’s over. It doesn’t make you ungrateful or lesser in any way. Remind yourself of the perks of being done with wedding planning... less stress, spending less money, having all your photos/videos Smiley smile honestly looking at photos made me sadder while I was going through this lol, but watching our video cheered me up 🤷🏻‍♀️ Idk why, that’s just how it went for me.


    Honestly I’d love to tell you “it’ll pass quickly” but hey I’m 8+ months married and sometimes I still feel a little twinge of sadness it’s over 😂 but for the most part I’m just grateful we had such a great day that’s worth missing, and for my husband!
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  • Mrs. S
    Master November 2019
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    After my wedding I didn’t go on a honeymoon but I was on thanksgiving break so I slept for 3 days lol. Then I was so relieved it was all over and went well and I was able to pay off my car and not spend so much money anymore on wedding stuff. Right now I’m working on staying healthy, some artsy things I like to do that I now have time for, and make some financial plans for the future. Plus we need to find a new place to live which is a project in itself.
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  • Stevie
    Devoted February 2020
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    Congratulations! Buying a house is a huge accomplishment, and does acquire a-lot of planning!I am already seeing Brides ask questions for their weddings for 2021 and I am sitting here like

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    It's almost over!!!. I am getting married on 02.22.2020 so it's a bittersweet feeling, and I am hoping there's a hobby I can get into cause I can already feel the rollercoaster of emotions happening.

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  • Stevie
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    It's such an intense feeling for sure. I appreciate you sharing your experiences, I am starting to feel that a little bit now since we are so close to the "end" I have no more planning left, I just wait. lol

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  • Stevie
    Devoted February 2020
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    OMG THE SLEEP! YES! 😭 Tbh, I think there's a level of the stress is starting to transfer to other aspects of my life and its effecting it..... negatively. So there's a part of me ready for the wedding to be over, but the other side of me is like. "But what else do I plan for?" We leave for our honeymoon about a week after the wedding so there will be a little of a break before we jet off. Smiley smile

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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
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    Haha, just try to enjoy the excitement of the next couple weeks! You’ll miss it soon enough!
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
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    Very real. Hence why I'm still on here aha. I do find that if you've other projects after to look towards it helps
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  • Stevie
    Devoted February 2020
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    Yeah I don’t think I’d leave the page either. 😂🤣 I love this platform and it’s nice to have a group of people to chat with.
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    Super August 2020
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    Our honeymoon is 3 months after the wedding, so I assume I will go into planning mode for that lol.

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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
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    We have been married for 145 days now. We did all the planning ourselves, paid for everything ourselves, did all the decor ourselves etc, was so much of a DIY wedding that I was looking forward to getting back from the honeymoon and being able to relax. HA! I think that you will realize that once you aren't in wedding mode, you will start noticing all of the things that got pushed aside that you now have to catch up on and you will still have plenty to do, or at least I did lol. Otherwise just enjoy it.

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  • Tammy
    Super October 2018
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    I asked my husband if we could do a vow renewal so I could get another wedding dress 🤷‍♀️

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  • Cherry
    Expert February 2020
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    It's definitely real. I'm 3 days away from my wedding and I'm already said that it's coming to a close. Luckily, my FH asked me months ago what I would do when wedding planning was over because he was really worried I'd be bored and upset. So we game planned together. First it's the honeymoon and then we're going to look into finding a new place to live. Then we'll start planning our next vacation (or 3), and then buy a house. It'll be nice to not talk about the wedding any more, because it's all I've done for the past year, but it'll also be sad. I don't think any amount of preparing will make me ready for it. Smiley cry

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  • Laura
    VIP November 2019
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    Post wedding blues are definitely a thing. I’ve been married three months and I still feel it now and then. I’m still looking for my next ‘project’ to occupy me.
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  • Stevie
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    Hahah yes! perfect. lol

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  • Sabrina
    Dedicated September 2020
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    I would suggest ready the book " the conscience bride" By Sheryl Paul. It talks about how woman don't talk about how a part of us gets depressed when everyone else says how this is the happiest time of our life.
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  • Alejandra
    Super March 2019
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    I had a bit of the wedding blues after my wedding, it'll be a year next month. I just tried to occupy myself with another project that will take up some time or plan a vacation, if time and money allows. We got a puppy too and she is always keeping our minds busy so thats another thing. I also did this wifey make over thing and I got a new hair cut and put on some eyelashes and other things an bought myself new clothes so I remember to always look and feel my best. Now that almost a year has gone by I can only think back to what I was doing one year ago and think, "Thank God thats over"

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