April bride postponing problems

I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. We have a community hub of all our COVID-19 information, including cancellation guides, monthly planning posts, and advice on how to get additional support. I hope it helps you navigate this difficult time!

First of all, I'm so sorry for all this stress you're going through I can only imagine how it must feel. I am already married so I can't personally relate, but i wanted to give you my perspective just for an additional outsider's opinion. Try to remove yourself from the situation and the current state of the world. I know that's hard, but take a minute and step back. Go back to what it felt like when you first got engaged and how you were feeling about a wedding/planning. I say, if in the beginning you were feeling in your heart you wanted a wedding with guests, then go for it! Obviously things are less than ideal right now. But, go with what you have and trust it will all work out. If it were me, I'd consider postponing a little farther away from June, maybe sometime early fall?! That may allow your guests to save up some money to attend the wedding. If not, if you never truly cared about having a wedding with guests, definitely consider eloping! It sounds like whether have you have the wedding in June or elope, you'll be out some money. So do whatever feels right in your heart and soul! Do what you and your fiance feels suits your relationship best.

I'll tell you my story. My husband is in the Army. We had been dating for 8 years when he found out he was going to have to deploy in a few months so we decided we wanted to get married. (We had talked about marriage many times before then and he even had a loose diamond ready to be set into a ring, so it wasn't a total surprise.) I had 8 weeks in total to plan the wedding, and he was gone for much of it so I did almost everything on my own. It was incredibly stressful... we talked about every different scenario and possibility. We considered eloping, we thought about getting married on a cruise, going somewhere in the Caribbean, having a very small wedding at a winery in the Finger Lakes. Ultimately we went back to what we had always mutually agreed we wanted, a big, formal wedding in a beautiful ballroom with all our friends and family! there were many people that couldn't attend because of the short notice, but we knew we wanted a big wedding so that's what we had! If you guys have never truly been attached to the idea of a wedding with your 70+ guests, I say ditch that , recoup what you can, and elope!!! Hoping you can make a decision, with as little stress as possible, that will make you both happy