Any couples living separately before marriage?

No, my husband and I moved in together 6 months after dating. I agree with you that it's rare not to live together before marriage. I know it was a religious thing before but I feel like I've even seen that change for some over the years.

My boyfriend and i do not live together and won’t until we are married. We have been dating for 2 years now

Why is it rare? Partially cuz some areas are SSSOOO expensive on your own unless you can split bills with someone... partially a lot of people have been shifting their views or grew up “christian” but dont own it for themselves, so dont hold the same standards as before ... could be other things too

View Quoted Comment Yes, people follow culture over religion these days.

My fiance and I live separately, mostly for religious reasons (we're both devoted Catholics)! I certainly get the appeal of moving in together in advance (it can be convenient both logistically and financially, we'd certainly enjoy living together), but our faith is super important to us so that takes priority. There is an nice side to it though - our wedding day is going to feel extra special because it'll be the first time we'll get to go home together 😊

If you are both comfortable living separately, don't let anyone pressure you into doing something you don't want to.

However, I do think that living together changes a relationship dynamic significantly, and I'm very glad that my now-husband and I worked out those issues years ago when he first moved in.

View Quoted Comment Hi Erin! You're a black sheep like me in our romantic pop culture!

Many Christian sects oppose sex before marriage, but others do not. It is not a Christian thing, it is what some Christian groups have passed down. His parents may think it a matter of personal conscience, not always forbidden, and see sex as normal for a committed couple and that you are already dedicated to each other. Like divorce, Some Christian groups oppose, others think better than a bad marriage. Both Christian. Maybe when you know them better, you will know where the lines they make are.

View Quoted Comment I've been utilizing roommates. Saves sooo much money.

I also do not live with my fiancé and have no interest in doing so while we’re engaged. The temptation and more pros than cons are there to sway us into moving in together now, but it makes it it that much more special (for us) when we go out on dates, do weekend trips, etc.
It emphasizes the fact that we’re committed to each other but don’t have to be around each other 24/7. That’s something we look forward to applying after we’re married, since we will be living with each other and living lives with friends/responsibilities outside our relationship. We look at it as, we have the rest of our lives (god willing) to live with each other, living separately during our engagement will not kill us.

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EXACTLY THIS!! it is something special, and i look forward to our wedding day when we can finally live together, have sex, and just say "goodnight" instead of "goodbye" I hear that! I am a strong non-denominational Christian and both Ryan and I put our faith as priority too.

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HI! yes we are

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Amen!!!

I don't think there's anything wrong with living separately from your spouse, but I'll be honest when I say that I don't think I would have been able to accept the marriage proposal without living together first.

Even though my future spouse and I dated for over four years, we both decided that we didn't want to take the relationship further, without seeing if we could live together properly.

Honestly, when we first moved in together, I didn't think things with our relationship would change that much, but I'm not gonna lie, it was one of the hardest things ever, and learning to navigate with one another was difficult and it really tested us individually. However, instead of falling apart, we came back stronger, and after going through that we both knew we would be fine with getting married.

So many great points brought up on this discussion! My fiancé & I live together & we wouldn’t have It any other way. I’m definitely glad we did because getting used to each other’s ways took some adjusting.

View Quoted Comment Hi Jessica, I 100 percent agree. Good for you for hokding down with your faith.

View Quoted Comment Hi Eri, thabk you for your response. You're always giving kind advice

View Quoted Comment Um okay. Never said it was a Christian thing. Thanks for your response.

View Quoted Comment Good for you for holding out! Best wishes

View Quoted Comment Good for you Erin! It's great to see others go against societal norms for valid reasons