I've been incredibly stressed out these last couple of weeks. DB completely ruined my dress during alterations, so I had to bring it to my usual tailor to get it fixed. We're about 8 days away from the wedding and I'm already thinking about dress alternatives at this point and whether or not I can get it in time just in case.
Work just sucks. They hired a new manager and she's completely bonkers. She micro-manages and it honestly doesn't help when I'm trying to do my job because it's getting done twice because of her. To top it off, I think she doesn't understand social cues so she acts like she's dumb and I know she knows it too.
So, to give you guys a bit of background as to why I'm ready to scream. We are having a micro-DW in Hawaii which sounds great. Even better, we decided to "gift" our immediate family so we paid for their flights and accommodations. It wasn't cheap, and I'm still paying it off working a full time and PT job. We chose our current date because both my sisters are residents at hospitals, and one of them told me that my original date of October wouldn't work cause it was too soon. So we decided to push our wedding to accommodate my 2 sisters who were unable to ask for time off so soon in their semester.
My sister who lives in AL requested time off back in August when we had decided on the date. My little sister who lives abroad in Guatemala has not at all.
My LS has been a pain for the last few months. She first asked me to include her girlfriend in our wedding party because she didn't want to be alone after I told her it was only going to be immediate family, therefore I wasn't going to be paying for someone I didn't even know existed before that conversation she had with me back in December 2019. Her girlfriend couldn't pay for her own flight (we said she could stay with my sister in her hotel room so accommodations were already paid for), so then she asked me if her friend could come. I actually knew her friend and he stayed with us a few years ago when they came to visit LA. I said sure (I wasn't too freaked out about this cause I knew him), but again he was unable to pay for his travel because flying from GT to Hawaii is not cheap.
Well, she just texted me and asked me how I was doing. I said I was super stressed out because of the whole dress situation and then work and the new manager. She then proceeds to tell me that no one is going to be looking at the dress cause everyone will be crying, except for her. THEN she says that there's a chance she can't make it to the wedding. I told her that she has known for months now and could have requested off, and she said it was never a 100% deal and how I knew that she didn't even know if she could request off. If she gets caught not going to her shift she said she has to repeat 6months all over again. She then said that she will ask on Monday if she can be off starting Wednesday - that's 2 days notice instead of 6 months notice that she had before?!
Am I being unreasonable asking her to do what she can to make her elder sister's wedding? Should I just cancel her flight? I might get something back cause I paid for trip insurance, but I've never used it before to know what I need to do. I literally want to scream because nothing is going right and there's ONLY 10 of us. HOW can it be this difficult.
To top it off, my mom told me that she doesn't want to have "high expectations" of the wedding because she doesn't want to be "disappointed". What does that even mean? I'm her first born and she isn't even excited for this. I had asked her to help me press my bouquet flowers and then she told me a few days ago that she doesn't know if she can do it. So I was scrambling to find places that could accommodate bouquet pressing. Thankfully, I found one that was affordable and the style was what I wanted - but, OMG. I'm literally about to scream.
