Advice on wedding vow renewals

Needing advice...my husband and I will be celebrating our 13th wedding anniversary on September 17, 2024. We have had a dark cloud over our heads beginning in January 2014 with losing my father in law in January and losing my father in February 2014, exactly 1 month apart same day and almost to the hour. 2015 we purchased our 1st home. December 24, 2018 my husband had an aortic aneurysm and emergency heart surgery that Christmas day. After a very long recovery, we thank the good lord, he survived and is doing well. December 2019 we had a horrible car accident being hit head on by an intoxicated driver at 70mph on the hwy. Once again, the good lord was watching out for us and we survived after I sustained serious injuries and after several surgeries doing well. Needless to say we have had a lot of heartache throughout the 1st 10 years of our marriage. However, through it all, we have never left each other's side through any of it. We began discussing renewing our vows after my husband brought it up stating to me that if " I could marry you all over again I would". "You are the best thing that has ever happened to me". Of course, I feel the same way. Probably said alot more than I expected to here and what lead us here but..here is the question for advice. What would be the appropriate way to do this? Is this the right thing with the 2 most very important people in our lives are no longer here to celebrate with us? Also, with the majority of my side of the family gone, is this an appropriate thing to do? Or should we just keep it between us and renew privately? My apologies for the long message. Thank you in advance.