Hello everyone! Just wanting some advice or insight on this situation.
My FFIL is divorced from FMIL, and has been dating the same woman for years. The grandkids call her "Mama ___" as her 'grandma name', she comes to holidays etc. My question is whether or not it's rude to not include her during the morning of events, specifically getting her hair and makeup done, and the first look with parents. (FH has all brothers and no sisters, so I was going to do a first look with his parents as well).
FH has 3 brothers that are married, and none of them included FFIL's gf, but at the last wedding, I overheard her badmouthing the bride because she wasn't part of getting her hair and makeup done. She wasn't IN the wedding for any of the previous weddings before ours, and she isn't IN ours, so I'm conflicted. I also want to mention that her and FMIL do NOT get along...like had a heated argument at the last wedding...and I don't feel comfortable with them being around one another.
Idk, I may be overthinking it, but if you were in her shoes, would you feel like we were purposefully leaving you out? FH says it's not a big deal and she can be mad if she wants to since she's the type to do that, but I can't help but feel bad.