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Adding on Bridesmaids

Samantha, on July 18, 2023 at 11:46 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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My fiancé and I got engaged back in July 2022 and have our wedding date set for May 2024, due to work commitments it’s been a long engagement. We have a lot of close friends who are couples, so we we originally wanted to just have a maid of honor/best man without having a huge bridal party. I had my MOH fly out in April for wedding dress shopping and invited two newer friends I’ve made to come bridal dress shopping as well.

Over the past year, I have become very close with two girls and they have been helping me plan my wedding without even asking, doesn’t hurt that we all live nearby each other now. They even threw me a little engagement party dinner when I barely knew them and just moved here (my fiancé is close with their boyfriends). Since we originally said to them that we wanted just a maid of honor, would it be seen as rude if I add these two closer friends now and have a more traditional smaller bridal party. Do you think they would be excited or more thrown off? Any advice would be appreciated!

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Latest activity by Skylar, on July 21, 2023 at 11:05 PM

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Kimberly · on July 18, 2023 at 3:28 PM
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I think this is totally fine! This is different from other situations where people are adding in a substitute for a bridal party member who was asked to step down or can no longer participate, which often results in hurt feelings. But you’re now adding them without replacing anyone else, and even better, you’re not even adding them to an already established party. It totally makes sense this far in to change your mind and decide on a bigger party, and that’s why it’s better to wait until 6-12 months before the wedding to ask anyway since relationships can be unpredictable. And if this was a new friendship when you first got engaged, they probably feel the same about your friendship getting stronger over the years. I think telling them now that you’ve really appreciated their friendship, so much so that you can no longer imagine your day without them standing beside you, is a great way to honor your new close friends!
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CM · on July 18, 2023 at 3:48 PM
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I agree with all this.
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Bird · on July 18, 2023 at 5:09 PM
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I would not ask them to be bridesmaids. If you’ve only been close with them for one year, how do you know you will be close with them in 10 years? Will it be weird to look at your wedding photos in10 yrs and possibly not be talking to them?

I think if they are helping you plan and threw you an engagement party, that is great and they are really super nice and thoughtful and amazing friends. But it doesn’t mean they need to be a bridesmaid. (I do nice things for people even if I don’t have a title because I am excited for them) I don’t think they are expecting to be in the bridal party either and I don’t think they’d be upset if u didn’t ask because they sound very reasonable.

Also sometimes helping with a wedding is easier when you’re not a bridesmaid because there isn’t as much pressure to help.

Just my two cents. Please let us know what you decide!
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Jacks · on July 19, 2023 at 2:24 AM
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That's why we say to wait to finalize wedding party until 6-8 months before the wedding. Having said that, there's nothing against etiquette by adding people in to the wedding party, as long as you're not replacing anyone else.
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Skylar · on July 21, 2023 at 11:05 PM
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If you think they would be interested, maybe consider it. I agree with everyone else when they say to wait a little bit, just to be sure that they're a good fit
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