So my fiance and I have decided we would write our own vows, in addition to the very traditional "I, blah, take thee, bloo, for my lawfully wedded..." stuff.
I have had my vows written for over a year and a half, they are about 370 words/2 minutes long.
I have 2 questions for you wise wedding people today!
1. Is that an ok length? How long were your vows, if you did personal ones?
2. the majority of what I've written has stayed the same for the whole 1.5 years. But I'm really struggling with the intro and it's the bit I keep going back to in an attempt to improve/fix. My problem is this:
I want to tell my husband-to-be that there are some things in life that you fall inexplicably in love with, and there's no accounting for it. It doesn't make sense. It just becomes a part of your soul and who you are. For me, some of those things are coffee, pink and rabbits. I love them. I fell in love with the last 2 before I could even speak. And when I 'met' coffee as a teenager, I knew it was the beginning of a lifelong, passionate affair.
And then I mention that now - he is one of those things. Then, in my promises, I promise things like speaking kindly to him before I've had my coffee, etc, all relating back to the other things I mention being part of the fabric of who I am.
The problem is... it seems like a lot of rambling and not a lot of promising, but I need the set up to make the promises the way they're written.
It's been fine so far, because the vows haven't been due.
But they are now due in like, 2 weeks, and I'm kind of not sure what to do! I just checked, and the vows are:
1 third set up
1 third things I understand I am accepting in marrying him
1 third promises
So, how much rambling is too much? How long is too long? I don't want to bore people senseless and my fiance is a man of few (but very carefully selected and fully felt) words. He knows how many words my vows are roughly, and how many minutes I'm speaking for, so will try to match what I'm doing, but I'm just apprehensive that the flow isn't what people will be expecting.
Thoughts?