4 months

Have you given them a deadline and explained the importance of why? I gave the girls a deadline and some of them didn’t order a dress until a month later lol. I set the deadline with a buffet knowing some will procrastinate.


Now I’m dealing with one whose dress does not fit and she is not wanting to buy a new one...

View Quoted Comment I told them all. That if they order them now it will leave about a month in case they need alterations. They just wont listen

I'm sorry to hear you're going through this. Obviously they know if they don't have their outfits, then you'll have no wedding party. I hope it falls into place for you but to have your wedding party if you'd still like but honestly don't stress it. It's an easy cut if they don't want to do their part. They can just sit as guests.

If your dad doesn't care to help think of a song after all the times you've asked, then you can cut the father/daughter dance out of the reception completely. If you're just not getting the support you deserve, your best bet would be to just not have a wedding party or dance. The last thing you need is added stress on things that can be changed. I'm definitely rooting for you though that they come to their senses.

Unfortunately, with everything going on in our world people have other things on their minds. I would send a group message to your girls with a firm deadline of when the dresses need to be ordered by. If they don't have them by then they can be guests. You shouldn't have to treat your girls like children because they don't want to behave like adults. Your mom and future mother-in-law should be able to pick whatever dresses they want to wear. You still have plenty of time to get suits ordered. They can honestly be ordered a couple of weeks before the wedding. If you're really concerned, could you message them. If your dad doesn't want to pick a song then I would just pick one on your own. I picked the song my dad and I danced to without his input.

Ah sorry that’s happening - people don’t get as excited and as interested in our weddings as we would hope for them to be. You can remind people all you want but unfortunately they have their own speed at which they do things and so they’ll eventually get them, it’ll just not be when we want but as long as they get it by the wedding should be ok

We are 68 days out and this is still kinda happening to me also. I would love to give you hope, but people do everything at the last second. My fiancé just got his outfit last week. I have no idea what my mother or father are wearing as they have other things going on. My MOH hasn’t decided yet if she wants HMU done so I can figure out the timeline. Every time I mention the wedding people act bothered. I’m soooo ready for it to be done! My bachelorette party is still up in the air. I figured people would be excited by now but 🤷‍♀️ ....I’m working on final details now so that hopefully at 30 days out I can throw my hands up and come to terms with whatever happens.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. My wedding is also 4 months away from right now and my girls ordered their dresses a bit ago, the first one arrived this past week. They waited for me to say go and then it really was that one girl was going to be working at a camp all summer and her mom wanted to make sure her dress was ordered before that.


If it’s Azazie, I know they suggest having all dresses in the same color he ordered within a 24hr window of each other to insure its the same dye lot. I would pull a bit of a bridezilla moment and tell them they need to order their dress by X date. For me, we decided on the dress back in March but I wanted to wait to make sure they were okay financially to order. I’m not as worried about my guys. But I do need to look at what suit my dad has already. We’re not doing tuxes. My FH & I have picked out his outfit but he hasn’t ordered yet. He only has the Best Man to tell what it get. We picked dress pants and a dress shirt from Amazon that’s easy to wear agin. My FH will wear a vest, BM will not and I’m getting their ties to match the girls’ dresses.

Girl, I feel you on that. But like PP said, you’ve given them the info and a reminder. Stressing over it only hurts you.
I had to get a little aggressive with my fiancé and my bridesmaids because everyone was so nonchalant. My girls and my mom have ordered their things and my dad and fiancé have ordered their suits but none of the groomsmen and his dad have. His mom doesn’t answer anyone’s phone calls or texts so I’m not even stressing over her.
I had to make an appointment for my fiancé to go get his stuff done. I felt bad about it because he got a little snippy with me, but if nothing else we will be dressed and so will my parents and bridesmaids. I’ll probably try to gently remind him to remind his guys in the next month or so especially with covid slowing everything down. 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

I'm sorry you are having these issues! This is part of the reason we opted not to have a wedding party; is that something you would consider to save yourself the headache? Doesn't seem like it's really adding much to your experience.

If I were you I would just cancel the entire wedding party and just have you and your future husband up there LOL. I’m so sorry you’re going through that. It doesn’t sound like you’re asking for too much except for people to show up dressed in their bridal party attire. As far as your dad‘s dance goes, you can skip that as well. If you tell him that you’re going to skip it and he gets upset then that mean he cares. If you tell him that you’re going to skip it and he says OK that’s fine, then you probably shouldn’t even be having a dance with him anyway. His loss.

View Quoted Comment Tara I truly feel your pain! I'm sorry doesn't it make you wanna go all bridezilla on them???

View Quoted Comment Haha yes! I’ve been pretty good so far. I think the Coronavirus brought out more bridezilla than anything

I'm sorry that's happening. I agree with a pp, that you should send a group text and inform them of a hard time limit. If they don't comply then unfortunately and sadly you have your answer. I've had to do the same thing especially with COVID, time frame and trying to be considerate of everyone's finances. But, the truth is everyone has known about the wedding for over 2 years.