3/19/21 wedding in Arizona - want to move forward but family is not supportive

Fellow AZ bride here - we’re getting married on 4/3/21 in Mesa at Regency Gardens. We’re getting married on that day regardless- 1) we really love our date & 2) we have been through so much both as a couple & individually. My fiancé is a firefighter/medic & I work at a hospital- we both started the vaccine last week. We are doing everything we can to ensure the health & safety of our guests. Our venue has cut their max capacity from 250 to 160 to be in compliance- our guest list is around 90 which is around 60% of the max capacity. Tables are 10 (instead of 12) per table & are 6 feet apart. Plenty of masks & hand sanitizers will be available. We know some will still not come & we respect their decision but this day is about us. Planning a wedding during a pandemic isn’t for the weak! You do you girl!

I would play hardball with them and tell them the cost to postpone is X ($12k plus new invites, cancellation fees and/or price changes on honeymoon or travel, anything else) and tell them that's more than *you* are willing to pay, which implies they're free to foot the bill if they want. People love to have opinions about how you should spend your money 🙄


Other than that, I would say to tell anyone who asks that you've weighed your options and decided this is the best course of action. I've heard in situations where people are obstinate, don't JADE (justify, argue, defend, explain).

If you want to marry, then do it and don't wait for other people's approval or support. If they refuse to support you, they are free to stay home, and no one needs that toxicity. You can't put other life events/decisions on hold either because someone else doesn't like what you have chosen.

I recommend you carry on. Your loved ones have the choice to attend or not. My FH and I ended up cancelling our wedding and opted for an elopement

I think you just need to move forward with your plan. Those that love you will be there and if not, then you just have to be ok with that.