When I first came to this website in May 2019 the world looked so different than it does now. Newly engaged, ready to plan the big wedding of my dreams that I never got with my first marriage. Then, a few months before we sent invites out we had a family emergency with our children where we had to use our savings to take care of that. I was so heartbroken. We had a few choices, we could tone down our wedding or we could wait. We decided to tone down our wedding. Dropped our guest list from 80 to 30. Changes venues. Cut out anything that wasn't necessary to get married. We were going to go to the courthouse but our mentors at church convinced us to do a "church office" wedding. Which was really just in the sanctuary without any decorations and whatnot which was honestly really great.
I don't think any of us expected what 2020 brought us. Looking back a small wedding sooner was exactly right. This year has been insane but it's honestly been the best year of my life. We bought a pop up camper to camp social distance style, we moved (and are getting ready to move again, yikes), he's had a job change, we've spent a LOT of time with the kids. It hasn't been all roses. We've argued and fought. But we have good supports around us, people we can talk to, to bring us back to focus on what's important which is each other. When planning your wedding, try to focus more on the long term marriage than the day. It can be so fun and exciting planning the party, but when that goes away you're going to be left with this person and those financial decisions. Make sure you have good supports! Happy planning y'all. Here's some pics from our first year together.
